this will be for the love towards the breed
this will not for money purpose i will give the puppies to responsible famalies and can sell some of them also
female pittbull will be nice ?
how many of you have FEMALE PITTBULL? What you do of her puppies?I want to own a Female American Pitt bull seeking advice ?
My mother in law breeds blue american pitt bull terriers. Pitt bulls are the most easily accessible breed and are very over bred. Look on craigslist or in animal shelters, around %60 or so of unwanted dogs are pitts.
Females are not necissarily less aggressive than males. Actually, Females have attacked many more people than males have during times they are pregnant or have young pups. They are extremely protective. I remember hearing the story of a young boy you was basically skinned alive by a pitt bull mother for getting too close to the brood.
Anyways, for the right owner they are a good dog. If you are not a professional breeder then do not attempt to breed. Have a female pitt and have her fixed then you do not have to worry with the puppies. If you do have puppies, have them all fixed before they leave for other homes. That is what responsible pet owners do regardless of which country you live in.
I am quite surprised that pitts are legal in India.I want to own a Female American Pitt bull seeking advice ?
I just adopted a female pitt. she's 8 weeks and we are getting her spayed ASAP. make sure you train her properly! if you don't you will the stereo typical pittbull that everyone hates. I am training my puppy not to chew on people and teaching her to chew on her toys and she is doing to well. I am going to hire a house call trainer to come a help me train her because pittbulls don't do well with other big dogs and training is more effective if it's the owners and her only. Usually other dogs just distract them from the meaning of the training.
First of all, you should really think about adopting one. Yeah you've probably heard bad stories because of breed stereotypes, but I assure you if you look, you will find a pittie out there that'll be perfect for you. There are PLENTY in the shelters and rescues and buying one from a breeder would just be senseless...
Also, I suggest you don't breed her. If you adopt one you won't have to worry about that because most shelters/rescues spay and neuter their dogs before adopting them out.
If you somehow get a purebred from a breeder, please please don't let her breed and get her fixed. Like I said there are already plenty of pit bulls in the shelters, I highly doubt you'd be able to find good homes for them. Eventually they'd grow up, and have to be put down because no one wants them.
Sorry to sound so negative, but its the truth. ADOPT!
IF YOU TRUELY ARE DOING THIS FOR THE LOVE OF THE BREED. . . OWN THE DOG AND SPAY HER. Heres something to think about. 3 MILLION Pit Bulls are euthanized each year in shelters in the united states. So what I want you to think about is this: How MANY MORE will you kill by breeding your dog? Real APBT's lovers understand this fact and dont add to back yard breeding from unlicensed breeders who usually contribute to the problem. Own the dog and be a proud outspoken advocate for them. Show your bully pride and love for the breed. please spay your dog. help save the other perfectly good pits in shelters. they deserve a home too. I myself own an American Pit Bull Terrier and I have her spayed. Help save the breed!
Get yourself a poodle. They don't moult and you could dye it pink.
You are Insane!!!!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Advice on where to seek help?
My friend has a problem where her knees point inwards and it makes her walk oddly. She is very self conscious of this and would really like to be able to walk normally. Does anyone know where she can go to see about it or what they might be able to do about it?Advice on where to seek help?
It sounds like she is ';knock kneed';.
She needs to see a bone specialist.Advice on where to seek help?
If she is in the UK, the first person she needs to see is her G.P.
He can then make a referral for her to the appropriate orthopaedic specialist.how to makeup coupons
It sounds like she is ';knock kneed';.
She needs to see a bone specialist.Advice on where to seek help?
If she is in the UK, the first person she needs to see is her G.P.
He can then make a referral for her to the appropriate orthopaedic specialist.
Has anyone whose baby has had a stroke at birth sought legal advice or brought a lawsuit against the hospital?
My daughter had a stroke at birth and I was wondering what legal options I have due to the financial burden on my family and the loss of my income. Please do not answer unless this applies to you.
Thank you.Has anyone whose baby has had a stroke at birth sought legal advice or brought a lawsuit against the hospital?
First off I am sorry for your loss. The first thing I would do is request a copy of the medical records for yourself and for the baby then consult a medical malpractice attorney. It is pretty hard to win a malpractice suit because you have to prove the the hospital or the staff where neglegent and that it could have been prevented.Has anyone whose baby has had a stroke at birth sought legal advice or brought a lawsuit against the hospital?
My cousin and his wife have a 17 month old little girl who was diagnosed with having had a stroke before birth. They were not able to tell when it actually happened, though. No, they have not sought out legal advice or even discussed a lawsuit. From what they have told me, it is not due to anything that doctors did, but rather just something that happens sometimes. Their medical insurance pays for their daughter's therapy, treatments, and doctors visits. They both work, though. I think you can probably find financial assistance via various organizations. I'd start with your doctor first and see if he/she has any suggestions of groups who help families with children with disabilities. Your local hospital may also have a resource center of support groups as well. You could check with a lawyer, but I don't think your daughter's condition will be considered grounds for malpractice.
Just because your baby had a stroke, doesn't mean that it is the hospitals fault.
You would have to be able to prove that a doctor or nurse caused the damage in order to think about a lawsuit.
If a doctor or nurse didn't cause it, nobody is at fault.
My neighbors daughter had a seizure a few hours after birth and tried to get a lawsuit going but were not able to because it was the baby who was ';defected'; and it was not on the hospital staff.Stephanie is now mentally challenged and in special day classes.
Good luck
Your baby had a stroke at birth and now you want the hospital to be financially responsible for it? What if it wasn't their fault? I can't imagine the difficulties this must cause for you, but some things we just have to accept as truth and deal with with out blaming someone.
This has never happened to me but I am very sorry to hear about this ... May I suggest you get a pro bono lawyer ? , Thats when you pay them when they win your lawsuit ... Again I am very sorry to hear about this and I will pray for your family XOXO
this does not apply to me...but i just wanted to say that you are in my prayers and i hope your baby is doing well and recovering..so sorry you had to go through this..
tough situation to be in
my aunt's daughter died 2 hrs after birth
not the hospital's fault, is it
Thank you.Has anyone whose baby has had a stroke at birth sought legal advice or brought a lawsuit against the hospital?
First off I am sorry for your loss. The first thing I would do is request a copy of the medical records for yourself and for the baby then consult a medical malpractice attorney. It is pretty hard to win a malpractice suit because you have to prove the the hospital or the staff where neglegent and that it could have been prevented.Has anyone whose baby has had a stroke at birth sought legal advice or brought a lawsuit against the hospital?
My cousin and his wife have a 17 month old little girl who was diagnosed with having had a stroke before birth. They were not able to tell when it actually happened, though. No, they have not sought out legal advice or even discussed a lawsuit. From what they have told me, it is not due to anything that doctors did, but rather just something that happens sometimes. Their medical insurance pays for their daughter's therapy, treatments, and doctors visits. They both work, though. I think you can probably find financial assistance via various organizations. I'd start with your doctor first and see if he/she has any suggestions of groups who help families with children with disabilities. Your local hospital may also have a resource center of support groups as well. You could check with a lawyer, but I don't think your daughter's condition will be considered grounds for malpractice.
Just because your baby had a stroke, doesn't mean that it is the hospitals fault.
You would have to be able to prove that a doctor or nurse caused the damage in order to think about a lawsuit.
If a doctor or nurse didn't cause it, nobody is at fault.
My neighbors daughter had a seizure a few hours after birth and tried to get a lawsuit going but were not able to because it was the baby who was ';defected'; and it was not on the hospital staff.Stephanie is now mentally challenged and in special day classes.
Good luck
Your baby had a stroke at birth and now you want the hospital to be financially responsible for it? What if it wasn't their fault? I can't imagine the difficulties this must cause for you, but some things we just have to accept as truth and deal with with out blaming someone.
This has never happened to me but I am very sorry to hear about this ... May I suggest you get a pro bono lawyer ? , Thats when you pay them when they win your lawsuit ... Again I am very sorry to hear about this and I will pray for your family XOXO
this does not apply to me...but i just wanted to say that you are in my prayers and i hope your baby is doing well and recovering..so sorry you had to go through this..
tough situation to be in
my aunt's daughter died 2 hrs after birth
not the hospital's fault, is it
Why does God tell us not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? What does Scripture say?
The Bible strongly condemns the practice of spiritism, mediums, occult, psychics, etc. (Leviticus 20:27; Deuteronomy 18:10-13). Horoscopes, tarot cards, astrology, fortune tellers, palm readings, séances, etc., fall into this category as well. These practices are based on the concept that there are gods, spirits, or deceased loved ones that can give you advise and guidance. These “gods” or “spirits” are demons (2 Corinthians 11:14-15). The Bible gives us no reason to believe that deceased loved ones can, or would even want to contact us. If they were believers, they are in heaven, enjoying the most wonderful place imaginable – in fellowship with a loving God. If they were not believers, they are in hell, suffering the un-ending torment for rejecting God’s love and rebelling against Him.
So, if our loved ones cannot contact us, how do mediums, spiritists, psychics, etc. get such accurate information? There have been many “exposes” on psychics. It has been exposed how a psychic can gain immense amounts of information on a person through ordinary means. Sometimes by just using a telephone number through caller ID and then an internet search, a psychic can get names, addresses, dates of birth, dates of marriage, family members, etc. However, it is undeniable that psychics sometimes know things that should be impossible for them to know. Where do they get this information? The answer is - Satan and his demons. 2 Corinthians 11:14-15 tells us, “And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve.” Acts 16:16-18 describes a fortune teller who was able to predict the future until the Apostle Paul rebuked a demon out of her.
Satan pretends to be kind and helpful. He tries to appear as something good. Satan and his demons will give a psychic information about a person, in order to get that person hooked into spiritism – something that God forbids. It appears innocent at first, but soon a person finds himself addicted to psychics – allowing Satan to control and destroy their life. 1 Peter 5:8 proclaims, “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.'; In most cases, the psychics themselves are likely deceived, not knowing the true source of the information they receive. Whatever the case, and wherever the source of the information – nothing connected to spiritism, witchcraft, astrology, etc. is God’s intention for us as a means to discover information. How does God want us to discern His will for our life? Simple: (1) Study the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16-17), (2) Pray for wisdom (James 1:5).
Recommended Resource: The Truth Behind Ghosts, Mediums, and Psychic Phenomena by Ron Rhodes.Why does God tell us not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? What does Scripture say?
Because it is collaboration with the demonic nature... demons provide the info and data to the mediums and fortunetellers, and it creates an “open door” to your soul where the demons then have full access to your life, and they begin to take full advantage of your life leading you down the road towards death. So we are warned against engaging in such activities to protect us from spiritual, mental and physical harm.Why does God tell us not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? What does Scripture say?
read what happened to King Saul when he went to the witch of endora to get an answer.
Christians have no business with palm readers, astrology, witchcraft or any thing else that derives its beginning from Satan.
Because he doesn't want people talking to demons
(Leviticus 19:31) 31 “‘Do not turn yourselves to the spirit mediums, and do not consult professional foretellers of events, so as to become unclean by them. I am Jehovah YOUR God.
(Deuteronomy 18:10-13) . . .There should not be found in you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, 11 or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead. 12 For everybody doing these things is something detestable to Jehovah, and on account of these detestable things Jehovah your God is driving them away from before you. 13 You should prove yourself faultless with Jehovah your God.
are these scriptures eneough for you?
Revelation 21:8 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
8But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.';
There is one verse that brings things into perspective:
Revelation 18:23 And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth; for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived.
GOD bless
Because he knows it is an avenue the devil uses to play with our minds.
thats a good question, but yeah in kings, saul banned all fortune tellers and then went to David to interrupt his dream, so that was kind of illegal. Cause he was king and all. But telling the future from a dream is his gift. He has a gift of the Spirit as we all do. I think that God dose not like us to seek advice from mediums and fortune tellers for two reasons. 1. It makes its so that we are not trusting 100% on God, which we should be and 2. there are evil spirits. Just as there is a God there is a devil. So the spirits are always at war. And probably all the mediums can do is be a huge lability to guide you in a wrong path. I don't know what to say about all fortune tellers. The Bible is the best way to get advice or talking with brothers and sisters in Christ. Hope this helped.
So ';God'; told you not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? Don't you mean that the Church you belong to told you this. I have never seen a quote from either Jesus, Buddha or any other religious person, telling them not to do this. Where did you get this ';commandment'; from.
Of course, it could be your interpretation of something in the bible. Somebody else reading the same passage would probably interpret it another way.
Why don't you make your own choice as to whether to or not, regarding any subject. Why wait to be told what you should or should not do.
You have free will, as do all of us. You can choose anything you want to, either negatively or positively. The consequences of either choices will be yours. If you make a mistake, you can start all over and learn something by it./
Going by what somebody else, or the ';bible'; seems to tell you, is not free will.
Go by your gut, without harm to anybody else and take the risk, for goodness sake.
Don't be a puppet with strings pulling him one way or another.
Be free, as God intended you to be and make your own choices based on your gut.
So, if our loved ones cannot contact us, how do mediums, spiritists, psychics, etc. get such accurate information? There have been many “exposes” on psychics. It has been exposed how a psychic can gain immense amounts of information on a person through ordinary means. Sometimes by just using a telephone number through caller ID and then an internet search, a psychic can get names, addresses, dates of birth, dates of marriage, family members, etc. However, it is undeniable that psychics sometimes know things that should be impossible for them to know. Where do they get this information? The answer is - Satan and his demons. 2 Corinthians 11:14-15 tells us, “And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve.” Acts 16:16-18 describes a fortune teller who was able to predict the future until the Apostle Paul rebuked a demon out of her.
Satan pretends to be kind and helpful. He tries to appear as something good. Satan and his demons will give a psychic information about a person, in order to get that person hooked into spiritism – something that God forbids. It appears innocent at first, but soon a person finds himself addicted to psychics – allowing Satan to control and destroy their life. 1 Peter 5:8 proclaims, “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.'; In most cases, the psychics themselves are likely deceived, not knowing the true source of the information they receive. Whatever the case, and wherever the source of the information – nothing connected to spiritism, witchcraft, astrology, etc. is God’s intention for us as a means to discover information. How does God want us to discern His will for our life? Simple: (1) Study the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16-17), (2) Pray for wisdom (James 1:5).
Recommended Resource: The Truth Behind Ghosts, Mediums, and Psychic Phenomena by Ron Rhodes.Why does God tell us not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? What does Scripture say?
Because it is collaboration with the demonic nature... demons provide the info and data to the mediums and fortunetellers, and it creates an “open door” to your soul where the demons then have full access to your life, and they begin to take full advantage of your life leading you down the road towards death. So we are warned against engaging in such activities to protect us from spiritual, mental and physical harm.Why does God tell us not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? What does Scripture say?
read what happened to King Saul when he went to the witch of endora to get an answer.
Christians have no business with palm readers, astrology, witchcraft or any thing else that derives its beginning from Satan.
Because he doesn't want people talking to demons
(Leviticus 19:31) 31 “‘Do not turn yourselves to the spirit mediums, and do not consult professional foretellers of events, so as to become unclean by them. I am Jehovah YOUR God.
(Deuteronomy 18:10-13) . . .There should not be found in you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, 11 or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead. 12 For everybody doing these things is something detestable to Jehovah, and on account of these detestable things Jehovah your God is driving them away from before you. 13 You should prove yourself faultless with Jehovah your God.
are these scriptures eneough for you?
Revelation 21:8 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
8But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.';
There is one verse that brings things into perspective:
Revelation 18:23 And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth; for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived.
GOD bless
Because he knows it is an avenue the devil uses to play with our minds.
thats a good question, but yeah in kings, saul banned all fortune tellers and then went to David to interrupt his dream, so that was kind of illegal. Cause he was king and all. But telling the future from a dream is his gift. He has a gift of the Spirit as we all do. I think that God dose not like us to seek advice from mediums and fortune tellers for two reasons. 1. It makes its so that we are not trusting 100% on God, which we should be and 2. there are evil spirits. Just as there is a God there is a devil. So the spirits are always at war. And probably all the mediums can do is be a huge lability to guide you in a wrong path. I don't know what to say about all fortune tellers. The Bible is the best way to get advice or talking with brothers and sisters in Christ. Hope this helped.
So ';God'; told you not to seek the advice of mediums or fortune tellers? Don't you mean that the Church you belong to told you this. I have never seen a quote from either Jesus, Buddha or any other religious person, telling them not to do this. Where did you get this ';commandment'; from.
Of course, it could be your interpretation of something in the bible. Somebody else reading the same passage would probably interpret it another way.
Why don't you make your own choice as to whether to or not, regarding any subject. Why wait to be told what you should or should not do.
You have free will, as do all of us. You can choose anything you want to, either negatively or positively. The consequences of either choices will be yours. If you make a mistake, you can start all over and learn something by it./
Going by what somebody else, or the ';bible'; seems to tell you, is not free will.
Go by your gut, without harm to anybody else and take the risk, for goodness sake.
Don't be a puppet with strings pulling him one way or another.
Be free, as God intended you to be and make your own choices based on your gut.
What percentage of people do you think are actually seeking sound advice when asking Yahoo questions?
I have tried to give well thought out answers to help people solve their problems only to have them choose the least intellegent answer from the pack. Its not that I think mine are the very best but it looks like in many cases the asker never intended to choose a decent answer. Are you guys running into this? Am I mistaken and this forum is largely for pure fun? Maybe this forum should be divided in two parts? Your thoughts and observations will be appreciated.What percentage of people do you think are actually seeking sound advice when asking Yahoo questions?
I know its flipping annoying isn't it? I spend a long time thinking out helpful answers and then a best answer is picked when it is totally stupid. I think this form is a mix of people trying to help (like you and me) and people who are just taking the p**s.
Still we keep trying don't we?! If I help at least one person then it is worth it.What percentage of people do you think are actually seeking sound advice when asking Yahoo questions?
i have noticed that too. i think more than half the people are just killing time.
I would think it's rather a small percentage, most questions can be answered easily with a search engine.
I think most people just want to post for fun, get opinions etc.
About 1.5% of the questions actually seem to have serious or pertinent intent to anything. The forum seems to be what it is by whom participates. To me most apparently serious questions are usually someones agenda and most of the over 50% questions and answers are just playing around waste of time below the second grade level of competence. Recommendation: Since it easy to waste time here be careful, because your time is worth allot more than just to be trivialized and your painstaking answers to be spat and stomped on like you are an idiot. Good luck with Yahoo! answers.
I know its flipping annoying isn't it? I spend a long time thinking out helpful answers and then a best answer is picked when it is totally stupid. I think this form is a mix of people trying to help (like you and me) and people who are just taking the p**s.
Still we keep trying don't we?! If I help at least one person then it is worth it.What percentage of people do you think are actually seeking sound advice when asking Yahoo questions?
i have noticed that too. i think more than half the people are just killing time.
I would think it's rather a small percentage, most questions can be answered easily with a search engine.
I think most people just want to post for fun, get opinions etc.
About 1.5% of the questions actually seem to have serious or pertinent intent to anything. The forum seems to be what it is by whom participates. To me most apparently serious questions are usually someones agenda and most of the over 50% questions and answers are just playing around waste of time below the second grade level of competence. Recommendation: Since it easy to waste time here be careful, because your time is worth allot more than just to be trivialized and your painstaking answers to be spat and stomped on like you are an idiot. Good luck with Yahoo! answers.
Want to invest $1000 in 2 different types of funds seeking advice?
College Student with $1000 to invest. Want to invest $500 in 2 separate funds- one which will see growth in about 2 years and one that will see growth in about 5 years. Index funds and Intermediate term bond funds have been suggested. Am I not investing enough to see growth? ALSO I've been investigating Vanguard as my investment company- good choice with the small amount of money I plan on investing? ALSO where can I find a good financial advisor (no cost if possible) Any advice would be helpful.Want to invest $1000 in 2 different types of funds seeking advice?
Index funds were actually a great suggestion. Vanguard is also one of the best (in my opinion THE best) mutual fund/investment companies out there.
Their fees are very low for their index funds. Which is critical in the long term.
An easy formula is to take your age. That is your bond allocation. Subtract from 100. That is your stock allocation.
ie, 20 year old has 20% in bonds, 80% in stocks.
S%26amp;P 500 Index is great
Vanguard Bond Index is great as well.
I would allocate 80/20 into those with $1000.
The reason that people are steering you to the index is that over 80% of paid professional money managers, those men and women who make millions, will not beat the market (S%26amp;P 500) over time.
Also, those managed funds have higher fees because you are paying for active management.
Not to be insulting, but any financial advisor who would take you on as a client would be fleecing you. They are paid either by comission by the funds they sell you (clear conflict) or by a percentage of your assets (the better you do, the more they make).
I worked in finance for a couple years, and for those starting out, I offer the same advice.
Vanguard S%26amp;P 500/Vanguard Bond Index. Base your allocation on your age. If you want to be more aggressive, increase your stock allocation.
Let it sit there, and put in 50 a month into both. By the time you hit retirement, you should be a millionaire. (assuming you are 20 years old)Want to invest $1000 in 2 different types of funds seeking advice?
Check these stocks out and start your own mutual fund just for yourself.
http://biz.yahoo.com/kiplinger/070611/ip鈥?/a>
I suggest you to invest in Sony and Nintendo and you will be fine.
With Vanguard you will need a minimum of $3000 to start most of their funds. I think their STAR fund is the only exception to that.
With a 2 year time horizon, you will want to stick with a money market account. With a 5 year time horizon, a total bond market index fund with duration about 5 years will do the trick. IMO, 2 and 5 years is too short to invest in stocks. You will need at least 10 years to get the most benefit from a stock fund.
But, don't worry so much about growth. You are young and still in college. There are so many unexpected expenses that will arrise in the next few years, not only with college but getting a job and moving out on your own. You may want to consider keeping your money in a liquid and conservative account, like bank CDs or a money market account, until you are established at your first post-grad job. Then once you are set, sign up for your company-sponsored retirement account and/or an IRA.
No-cost financial advisors usually work for a particular investment firm and have a conflict of interest. The best financial advisor is the one starring you back in the mirror. You need noone other than him. Only you can decide the right course for your money and how much risk you want to take. The only thing is that you will need to learn some basics. Check out a few good web sites for some free and unbiased information:
http://www.invest-for-retirement.com
http://www.investopedia.com
Take the time to learn the basics of investing, because these fundamentals will not change. Then, you will be able to use that knowledge for the rest of your life.
Index funds were actually a great suggestion. Vanguard is also one of the best (in my opinion THE best) mutual fund/investment companies out there.
Their fees are very low for their index funds. Which is critical in the long term.
An easy formula is to take your age. That is your bond allocation. Subtract from 100. That is your stock allocation.
ie, 20 year old has 20% in bonds, 80% in stocks.
S%26amp;P 500 Index is great
Vanguard Bond Index is great as well.
I would allocate 80/20 into those with $1000.
The reason that people are steering you to the index is that over 80% of paid professional money managers, those men and women who make millions, will not beat the market (S%26amp;P 500) over time.
Also, those managed funds have higher fees because you are paying for active management.
Not to be insulting, but any financial advisor who would take you on as a client would be fleecing you. They are paid either by comission by the funds they sell you (clear conflict) or by a percentage of your assets (the better you do, the more they make).
I worked in finance for a couple years, and for those starting out, I offer the same advice.
Vanguard S%26amp;P 500/Vanguard Bond Index. Base your allocation on your age. If you want to be more aggressive, increase your stock allocation.
Let it sit there, and put in 50 a month into both. By the time you hit retirement, you should be a millionaire. (assuming you are 20 years old)Want to invest $1000 in 2 different types of funds seeking advice?
Check these stocks out and start your own mutual fund just for yourself.
http://biz.yahoo.com/kiplinger/070611/ip鈥?/a>
I suggest you to invest in Sony and Nintendo and you will be fine.
With Vanguard you will need a minimum of $3000 to start most of their funds. I think their STAR fund is the only exception to that.
With a 2 year time horizon, you will want to stick with a money market account. With a 5 year time horizon, a total bond market index fund with duration about 5 years will do the trick. IMO, 2 and 5 years is too short to invest in stocks. You will need at least 10 years to get the most benefit from a stock fund.
But, don't worry so much about growth. You are young and still in college. There are so many unexpected expenses that will arrise in the next few years, not only with college but getting a job and moving out on your own. You may want to consider keeping your money in a liquid and conservative account, like bank CDs or a money market account, until you are established at your first post-grad job. Then once you are set, sign up for your company-sponsored retirement account and/or an IRA.
No-cost financial advisors usually work for a particular investment firm and have a conflict of interest. The best financial advisor is the one starring you back in the mirror. You need noone other than him. Only you can decide the right course for your money and how much risk you want to take. The only thing is that you will need to learn some basics. Check out a few good web sites for some free and unbiased information:
http://www.invest-for-retirement.com
http://www.investopedia.com
Take the time to learn the basics of investing, because these fundamentals will not change. Then, you will be able to use that knowledge for the rest of your life.
Is it logic that someone just got raped and then she enters yahoo answer to seek advice? not police?
i have just seen it when someone just asked about advice claiming that she has just been raped(in another section). bearing in mind that am also a girl, if someone just raped me, i will be much traumatized and i can never think of yahoo answer not only for this moment but for a very long time,may be never!
another guy in this section itself is saying that his bicycle is stolen, is yahoo answer a police station?Is it logic that someone just got raped and then she enters yahoo answer to seek advice? not police?
i think you are totally right. it's weird to be raped and then the 1st thing to do is to ask for advice on yahoo answersIs it logic that someone just got raped and then she enters yahoo answer to seek advice? not police?
I think you can never know what you will do unless you really be raped and feel the pain? anger? depression? with your heart. maybe a raped girl doesn't want any one to know she has been raped, and she comes to YA because she wont be known. maybe she wants to share her feeling only with a person who has been raped and has the same feeling. maybe she's scared. you can't put yourself in a raped girl's shoe so easily.
Id say they were full of crap and looking for attention. I had a guy attempt (i fought him off thankfully) to rape me in college..the LAST thing i thought of was the internet..I got home and dived into a hot bathtub and called my best friend..even tho he didnt succeed i felt horribly nasty...so id say they were not raped. no where near it..
Of course yahoo would be that last thing on my mind! But did i just read right?!??! You think the 1st thing i would do is REVEAL it to my relatives ????? Are you mad? That would be so extremely embarrassing have some shame whats wrong with you?? Tell you FAMILY?? That is just BESHARAM..... why would you want your family to know??
Imbecile.....
maybe she's scared..and this is where she comes for advice..who are you...the 'I choose What gets Asked On here Girl'??
who cares...and lol @ the stolen bicycle..
The first answerer gave you the correct answer,
but you understandth not
haha wow these people have some demented minds.. =S..
lol...i think their life revolves around yahoo answers.. ^o) XD
Allah Help Them...
smh..
-x-
Yes. That is strange and not believable.
Does the term ';trolling'; mean anything to you?
lol
some people would rather get opinions on what to do by randoms who they cant see face to face or be judged badly(being judged badly face 2 face is more hurting)
Some people also feel that its their fault if they were raped, and wouldnt go to the police or they were threatened by the rapist so they talk to people on the internet for support since they cannot get support from the outside world.
I think...you'd only understand why a person who is abused results to the internet for support...is if youve actually been there.
@ user below me: lol good old Pakistan eh? hehe, Well at least in Australia we dont have to jump for our lives to get off at the bus stop ;) you know what i mean?
hey!!! i am the guy who told about the stolen bike. it is my another account. you cant stop me i am muhammad ahmad siddiqui. what do you think we ramdanians have only one account? and we cant reply?
so here is the reply.
yes a girl getting raped can ask on Y!A cuz mostly girls wont want to tell in public that they have got raped. so they look for advice where no one knows them.
and about my bike do you think that police can find my bike or anyone's bike? i dont think so . at least in pakistan i dont think so. if i try to find it myself there is a better chance because i know my area and i know the persons to be suspected about this.
i posted it here cuz i am a ramadanian (a reg ramadan sect user) i have friends here and i was really angry then. i needed to cool myself. and i have a big repute of being just , kind and helpful to the neighbors in my area. i just could not show my monster side here. so i just needed to talk. so i came on Y!A. where my friend know how to cool me down.
here in ramadan section we just dont ask questions we also share our feelings and make friends that is what makes ramadan section better than other sections.
and tell me if you are raped will you just go to the police and say some one raped me go get him. dear being raped is a big thing not a bike being stolen. a bike can come back but virginity cant.
so those who use Y!A alot they will ask advise because a women cant just scream that she got raped are you out of your mind.
what you are saying that she should do is whatt the users would say here. but it take a lot of courage to say such a thing.
it took me 2 days to tell my father that i lost in the competition of karate in my group. it is nothing compared to being raped.
hope you unblock my ahmad account.
another guy in this section itself is saying that his bicycle is stolen, is yahoo answer a police station?Is it logic that someone just got raped and then she enters yahoo answer to seek advice? not police?
i think you are totally right. it's weird to be raped and then the 1st thing to do is to ask for advice on yahoo answersIs it logic that someone just got raped and then she enters yahoo answer to seek advice? not police?
I think you can never know what you will do unless you really be raped and feel the pain? anger? depression? with your heart. maybe a raped girl doesn't want any one to know she has been raped, and she comes to YA because she wont be known. maybe she wants to share her feeling only with a person who has been raped and has the same feeling. maybe she's scared. you can't put yourself in a raped girl's shoe so easily.
Id say they were full of crap and looking for attention. I had a guy attempt (i fought him off thankfully) to rape me in college..the LAST thing i thought of was the internet..I got home and dived into a hot bathtub and called my best friend..even tho he didnt succeed i felt horribly nasty...so id say they were not raped. no where near it..
Of course yahoo would be that last thing on my mind! But did i just read right?!??! You think the 1st thing i would do is REVEAL it to my relatives ????? Are you mad? That would be so extremely embarrassing have some shame whats wrong with you?? Tell you FAMILY?? That is just BESHARAM..... why would you want your family to know??
Imbecile.....
maybe she's scared..and this is where she comes for advice..who are you...the 'I choose What gets Asked On here Girl'??
who cares...and lol @ the stolen bicycle..
The first answerer gave you the correct answer,
but you understandth not
haha wow these people have some demented minds.. =S..
lol...i think their life revolves around yahoo answers.. ^o) XD
Allah Help Them...
smh..
-x-
Yes. That is strange and not believable.
Does the term ';trolling'; mean anything to you?
lol
some people would rather get opinions on what to do by randoms who they cant see face to face or be judged badly(being judged badly face 2 face is more hurting)
Some people also feel that its their fault if they were raped, and wouldnt go to the police or they were threatened by the rapist so they talk to people on the internet for support since they cannot get support from the outside world.
I think...you'd only understand why a person who is abused results to the internet for support...is if youve actually been there.
@ user below me: lol good old Pakistan eh? hehe, Well at least in Australia we dont have to jump for our lives to get off at the bus stop ;) you know what i mean?
hey!!! i am the guy who told about the stolen bike. it is my another account. you cant stop me i am muhammad ahmad siddiqui. what do you think we ramdanians have only one account? and we cant reply?
so here is the reply.
yes a girl getting raped can ask on Y!A cuz mostly girls wont want to tell in public that they have got raped. so they look for advice where no one knows them.
and about my bike do you think that police can find my bike or anyone's bike? i dont think so . at least in pakistan i dont think so. if i try to find it myself there is a better chance because i know my area and i know the persons to be suspected about this.
i posted it here cuz i am a ramadanian (a reg ramadan sect user) i have friends here and i was really angry then. i needed to cool myself. and i have a big repute of being just , kind and helpful to the neighbors in my area. i just could not show my monster side here. so i just needed to talk. so i came on Y!A. where my friend know how to cool me down.
here in ramadan section we just dont ask questions we also share our feelings and make friends that is what makes ramadan section better than other sections.
and tell me if you are raped will you just go to the police and say some one raped me go get him. dear being raped is a big thing not a bike being stolen. a bike can come back but virginity cant.
so those who use Y!A alot they will ask advise because a women cant just scream that she got raped are you out of your mind.
what you are saying that she should do is whatt the users would say here. but it take a lot of courage to say such a thing.
it took me 2 days to tell my father that i lost in the competition of karate in my group. it is nothing compared to being raped.
hope you unblock my ahmad account.
Does anyone know where to get free legal advice to seek partial custody of child ( for dads)?
I heard of a place that really helps dads out with this kind of stuff but i cant remember the place, does anyone know of a place in southern cali. My friends ex wont let him see his kid but 1 or 1day in a half a week, if that. She lives in the ghetto with 9 people in a one bedroom. But he is scared if he reports her they will take the baby away, and he wants him at least 3 in a half days out of the week . does anyone know what he can do??? and what rights she has due to her being illegal? plz help. oh and they are not married.....thxDoes anyone know where to get free legal advice to seek partial custody of child ( for dads)?
He should call the local Legal Aid Society. If she is here illegally, and he is not, he should get full custody, and she should be deported to her country of citizenship.Does anyone know where to get free legal advice to seek partial custody of child ( for dads)?
Go online and google ';fathers rights'; it will link you to dozens of organizations that do nothing but help fathers win rights to be a part of their childrens lives. Hope this helps
Is your friend also illegal? If he is not, then he really does not care for his child and I doubt anyone will help. Why do I say this? Because I am a father and would not allow my child to live in a house with 9 other people. Your friend needs to call CPS and have the child taken away from her. If he is not on the birth certificate, then he should go to a judge for a paternity test order. If he is on the birth certificate, CPS will give the child to him, and court will never have to be involved until she becomes legal and decides to do something about it.
Either way, if I was doing pro-bono work, some kind of organization to help dads, etc. I would not consider this kind of father to be a better parent than the mother. He is more worried about seeing his child than for the child's well being? That is selfish and ridiculous. He must do what is right- report the situation to CPS. If he is also illegal then there is really nothing he can do.how to makeup coupons
He should call the local Legal Aid Society. If she is here illegally, and he is not, he should get full custody, and she should be deported to her country of citizenship.Does anyone know where to get free legal advice to seek partial custody of child ( for dads)?
Go online and google ';fathers rights'; it will link you to dozens of organizations that do nothing but help fathers win rights to be a part of their childrens lives. Hope this helps
Is your friend also illegal? If he is not, then he really does not care for his child and I doubt anyone will help. Why do I say this? Because I am a father and would not allow my child to live in a house with 9 other people. Your friend needs to call CPS and have the child taken away from her. If he is not on the birth certificate, then he should go to a judge for a paternity test order. If he is on the birth certificate, CPS will give the child to him, and court will never have to be involved until she becomes legal and decides to do something about it.
Either way, if I was doing pro-bono work, some kind of organization to help dads, etc. I would not consider this kind of father to be a better parent than the mother. He is more worried about seeing his child than for the child's well being? That is selfish and ridiculous. He must do what is right- report the situation to CPS. If he is also illegal then there is really nothing he can do.
HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
I have a piece of GROUP coursework that is due in soonish (Can't remember exactly when - will find out later today).
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel like I can talk to him about it.
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
God, get a little assertiveness. Your project will NEVER be finished if you don't address this and get the other guy with the program, too. The right time is the VERY next time you see him, and it wouldn't hurt to email AND text him.
EDIT: Good for you. Don't expect miracles, obviously neither are very concerned, but now you're taking some control.
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel like I can talk to him about it.
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
God, get a little assertiveness. Your project will NEVER be finished if you don't address this and get the other guy with the program, too. The right time is the VERY next time you see him, and it wouldn't hurt to email AND text him.
EDIT: Good for you. Don't expect miracles, obviously neither are very concerned, but now you're taking some control.
HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
I have a piece of GROUP coursework that is due in soonish (Can't remember exactly when - will find out later today).
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel able to talk to him about it!!)
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
It's your grade. Call and ask him if he has the other person's number then ask him when would be a good time to get the work done and over with.
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel able to talk to him about it!!)
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
It's your grade. Call and ask him if he has the other person's number then ask him when would be a good time to get the work done and over with.
Seeking for advice on activity to do with kids on winter holiday in Montreal?
Where do locals go with their family? I am only staying for 2 days in Montreal and thought about maybe going to the Biodome, unless you advise something better. (My son is 5) Many thanks!Seeking for advice on activity to do with kids on winter holiday in Montreal?
Sledding and skating on Mount Royal at Beaver Lake (with a big lodge on site with restaurant, lockers, washrooms, etc...).
Swimming at the Aquadome in Lasalle.
Montreal Museum of Fine Arts (depending on the exhibits, since he's only 5).
The Old Port has the Science Centre (our kids love it), and in the Old Port itself are many other things to do (sightsee).
Have fun!
Sledding and skating on Mount Royal at Beaver Lake (with a big lodge on site with restaurant, lockers, washrooms, etc...).
Swimming at the Aquadome in Lasalle.
Montreal Museum of Fine Arts (depending on the exhibits, since he's only 5).
The Old Port has the Science Centre (our kids love it), and in the Old Port itself are many other things to do (sightsee).
Have fun!
I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
I have a great idea for a website. If done right, it could be a big deal. There are several parts to the idea for which I would want to seek out advice from other subject matter experts. I am concerned that my idea could be passed along to others (or perhaps those who I speak with) who have more resources (money, manpower, etc..) and therefore the ability to have something similar created much sooner than I could. How do I gather advice from others without jeopardizing my idea. Is a Non-disclosure agreement really enough?I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
Go down to the patents office, bring your idea and file for a patent.... You might even come to find out thousand other people already hold a patent on your idea... It happened to me once.I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
First thing I would do is register the domain name and any similiar ones.
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Go down to the patents office, bring your idea and file for a patent.... You might even come to find out thousand other people already hold a patent on your idea... It happened to me once.I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
First thing I would do is register the domain name and any similiar ones.
http://www.preferredpromoz.com/adlandpro鈥?/a>
Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
Well, i am 15 and need some tips on writing fiction in short story form. Any form of tips and advice would be great. And i am seeking advice from writers who have lots of experience in writing. Who have, hopefully, a couple of years of experience. I am in attempt to write a short story, but it never seems to come out right. I have plans on getting a book that is about writing like ';on writing'; by Stephen King, but i would like some advice for now, until i am able to get a copy of it. Thanks.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
Every writer has their own style. You cannot just take a writers advice and come out with a spectacular story.
Let's see what can I tell you...
Description: If you feel like describing all the different aspects of the characters and setting then do; unless you feel like keeping it simple. Let others form their own visuals based off of the little information you gave them. Find out how you like to do it.
Plot: I'd say be original or don't be cliche', but they just feel cliche'. Do something interesting.
Other Elements: Use other different elements: irony, action, gesture, dialogue, focus, time, place, point of view, character, etc.
find your style and roll with it.
Personally, I dislike 'How To Write' books.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
I would pick up a copy of Writer's Digest Magazine. It has a lot of advice. They also offer a correspondence writing class that could help you since it offers feedback from an author/teacher. You weren't very clear on what you needed help with. What exactly isn't ';coming out right';? If you want to ask more in-depth questions you can contact me through my website below.
Every writer has their own style. You cannot just take a writers advice and come out with a spectacular story.
Let's see what can I tell you...
Description: If you feel like describing all the different aspects of the characters and setting then do; unless you feel like keeping it simple. Let others form their own visuals based off of the little information you gave them. Find out how you like to do it.
Plot: I'd say be original or don't be cliche', but they just feel cliche'. Do something interesting.
Other Elements: Use other different elements: irony, action, gesture, dialogue, focus, time, place, point of view, character, etc.
find your style and roll with it.
Personally, I dislike 'How To Write' books.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
I would pick up a copy of Writer's Digest Magazine. It has a lot of advice. They also offer a correspondence writing class that could help you since it offers feedback from an author/teacher. You weren't very clear on what you needed help with. What exactly isn't ';coming out right';? If you want to ask more in-depth questions you can contact me through my website below.
Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
I am looking to become an Aquisition Editor, please tell me what college courses are good to take and the best way to get into the book publishing industry. (I heard it was very difficult).Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
I work with a small publishing company in the Pacific Northwest. You're right, it is difficult to break into the book publishing industry. I'd suggest working with a newspaper or magazine first. This will let you get some solid writing and editing experience on your resume -- while developing a sense of the field.
What has been a real asset over the last few decades is online resources like Bloomsbury, The Paris Review, the ABA and many others (see links below). They are a stunning resource in keeping an eye out for positions available across the country in the publishing business. They are also great in helping you build your network -- this is vital to a career in publishing if you want to be successful!
I'd also suggest attending as many author readings and book events as you can. C-Span's Book TV has a great event listings page where you can check out local book happenings.Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
The book publishing industry is very rewarding in aspects of reading, but doesn't pay well. However, to become an acquisition editor, you have to start at the bottom. Get a degree in journalism, English, or just go to monster.com or career builder, search for publishing jobs and see what education and qualifications they seek in candidates.cosmetics coupons
I work with a small publishing company in the Pacific Northwest. You're right, it is difficult to break into the book publishing industry. I'd suggest working with a newspaper or magazine first. This will let you get some solid writing and editing experience on your resume -- while developing a sense of the field.
What has been a real asset over the last few decades is online resources like Bloomsbury, The Paris Review, the ABA and many others (see links below). They are a stunning resource in keeping an eye out for positions available across the country in the publishing business. They are also great in helping you build your network -- this is vital to a career in publishing if you want to be successful!
I'd also suggest attending as many author readings and book events as you can. C-Span's Book TV has a great event listings page where you can check out local book happenings.Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
The book publishing industry is very rewarding in aspects of reading, but doesn't pay well. However, to become an acquisition editor, you have to start at the bottom. Get a degree in journalism, English, or just go to monster.com or career builder, search for publishing jobs and see what education and qualifications they seek in candidates.
Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
In four weeks I shall be attending the University of Wisconsin. I have never attended a college before. I am 52 yrs. old. I am handicapped. I am a recovering alcoholic %26amp; drug addict. I have been homeless 4 times in my life. The last time (Jan. 05) I received frostbite, which turned to gangrene. As a result of this I had 1/2 of my right leg and 1/3 of my left foot amputated.
I would truly like to help other people with alcohol %26amp; drugs problems. Only I realize that college is all about freedom %26amp; parties for the young people. I feel safe that I will remain substance free, but how should I convey to my fellow students the fact that I simply do not wish to party. I would much rather share what can happen if your partying gets out of hand. Any advice would be appreciated.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
I don't think you'll have to worry about it, because chances are you won't get asked to the parties. College students tend to hang with other people their age and they'll probably assume that you have better things to do and don't want to hang out with a bunch of kids. If they do ask, just tell them that you have other plans, but after the party ask them how it was and maybe you can work in some of your advice that way.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
Actually, the people you'll get to know best probably will be older than the just-out-of-highschool, party crowd, so shouldn't be a problem. There are lots of older people going back to school these days.
Good luck.
At 52, you aren't going to have to worry about this. You won't be asked.
I speak from experience -- I was 43 when I went back to graduate school.
If you are asked, you can simply say ';Thank you for asking, but I don't drink'; or ';thank you for asking but I can't make it.';
College is a great experience -- I hope you enjoy it. Don't be too quick to judge the young -- most of them are there to learn.
I would truly like to help other people with alcohol %26amp; drugs problems. Only I realize that college is all about freedom %26amp; parties for the young people. I feel safe that I will remain substance free, but how should I convey to my fellow students the fact that I simply do not wish to party. I would much rather share what can happen if your partying gets out of hand. Any advice would be appreciated.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
I don't think you'll have to worry about it, because chances are you won't get asked to the parties. College students tend to hang with other people their age and they'll probably assume that you have better things to do and don't want to hang out with a bunch of kids. If they do ask, just tell them that you have other plans, but after the party ask them how it was and maybe you can work in some of your advice that way.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
Actually, the people you'll get to know best probably will be older than the just-out-of-highschool, party crowd, so shouldn't be a problem. There are lots of older people going back to school these days.
Good luck.
At 52, you aren't going to have to worry about this. You won't be asked.
I speak from experience -- I was 43 when I went back to graduate school.
If you are asked, you can simply say ';Thank you for asking, but I don't drink'; or ';thank you for asking but I can't make it.';
College is a great experience -- I hope you enjoy it. Don't be too quick to judge the young -- most of them are there to learn.
Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Hi all!!
My fianc茅 is joining the Air force soon. He already talked to a recuriter about what the Air Force is about and he's different options. But he is not going to enlist until I talk to the recuriter myself. I know he isnt going to tell me what it is going to be like for me personally; as an air fore wife. So, I wanted some insight and advice from Air Force wives and from other military wives.
Thank You!!!
Also, we have a son and are planning to get married soon.Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
You need to go into your marriage knowing that the needs of the AF come first, that you will be asked to move to places you have no desire to go, you will leave behind your family and friends, your husband may deploy on short notice for 6 months or he may go remote for a year, you will be a single parent at times, your son may have to get used to dad not showing up at the ball game or the school play or missing important birthdays, and he will miss holidays and anniversaries. Through all of this you remain strong, stand behind your man, and do the best you can with the support of your new friends and AF family.
You will gain strength you never knew you had. You may learn new skills. Do things you never thought about doing. Live places you've only dreamed about. Cry during a military movie. Stand prouder than many of the airmen during the national anthem. You will never wear his rank.
It's a hard life, but also a wonderful life. One I wouldn't trade for all the world. And that's including the 5 years he deployed 3 months every year and worked 14 hours days when he was home. I have been in wonderful places, places I never want to go again, met my best friend, and met women I never want to see again!
If you have any specific questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me. Having been mentored by some wonderful women, it's my turn to give back to the next set of AF wives.
hugs!Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Talk to the recruiter about what? I am not too sure what you are asking but it is a pretty tough life. My husband is in the Navy and is gone ALL the time. We are about to go through our 3rd deployment in 3 years. We spend more time on sea duty than on shore duty. If you are committed you will get through it but you can not really prepare yourself because you will never know how hard it truly is until you go through it yourself. Best of luck.
Well, I know you asked for military wives, but I am a military sister. My brother is in the Army. He spent a year in bootcamp. (we did not get to see him at all) Then he came home for 2 weeks and was sent to WA (we live in GA) where he has been for a year. He is actually home on another 2 week leave and when he goes back he will go to Afghanastan.
Best advise i can give is if he does sign in make sure that the job he wants is in writing or they will screw your fiance over. My husband went in as a mechanic and then was told he couldn't do that after he was in meps right before basic and then he was going to be a meteorologist and when he didn't graduate on time because he broke his foot in warrior week he now can only work in security forces. Recruiters are actually the worst guys you can talk to because they will feed you a line of crap. My husband said basic training was nothing like what his recruiter told him. Also make sure that they don't get him in ';general enlistment'; because that means they can put him in anything and your fiance won't have anything to say about it. Just don't believe everything that recruiter tells you because his main job is to get your fiance in there and will tell you whatever it takes to get him in. We might have gotten a crappy recruiter but my husband doesn't want to be in security forces and neither do i because he was promised a job but because he didn't get it all in writing and signed by the right people he is stuck being in security forces weather he wants to be or not. I am actually praying that they do discharge him and then he can go back in 6 months and get a decent job and get it in writing that he gets that job only. good luck
Here are a couple of Military wives support forums. You may have to register to use them.
http://www.airforcewives.com/index.php/c鈥?/a>
http://forums.military.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Also this web site has a lot of info on joining the military
there's a section called join the military.
http://www.military.com/
A lot of info here too.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforcej鈥?/a>
Basically the Air Force is like any civilian company. After basic training and tech school for your job you go to your first duty station. Working hours are normally 7:30 to 4:30. M-F You may have to work a weekend shift. You may occasionally have to work shifts it depends on what your job is. You wouldn't be able to join him until his first duty station or if the tech school is long enough to make it worth while you could join him there. I suppose if it were over 4 months it would be worth moving.
As a military member your husband will have free health and dental care, 30 paid vacation days a year, additional pay for housing and to eat separately (at home) rather than if he were single and ate in the dining hall. You and your son will have free medical care and low cost dental care. Also the military has commissary stores for groceries. They charge wholesale price plus 4% for overhead. It saves about 25% over downtown depending on what you buy. You just have to shop carefully.
My fianc茅 is joining the Air force soon. He already talked to a recuriter about what the Air Force is about and he's different options. But he is not going to enlist until I talk to the recuriter myself. I know he isnt going to tell me what it is going to be like for me personally; as an air fore wife. So, I wanted some insight and advice from Air Force wives and from other military wives.
Thank You!!!
Also, we have a son and are planning to get married soon.Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
You need to go into your marriage knowing that the needs of the AF come first, that you will be asked to move to places you have no desire to go, you will leave behind your family and friends, your husband may deploy on short notice for 6 months or he may go remote for a year, you will be a single parent at times, your son may have to get used to dad not showing up at the ball game or the school play or missing important birthdays, and he will miss holidays and anniversaries. Through all of this you remain strong, stand behind your man, and do the best you can with the support of your new friends and AF family.
You will gain strength you never knew you had. You may learn new skills. Do things you never thought about doing. Live places you've only dreamed about. Cry during a military movie. Stand prouder than many of the airmen during the national anthem. You will never wear his rank.
It's a hard life, but also a wonderful life. One I wouldn't trade for all the world. And that's including the 5 years he deployed 3 months every year and worked 14 hours days when he was home. I have been in wonderful places, places I never want to go again, met my best friend, and met women I never want to see again!
If you have any specific questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me. Having been mentored by some wonderful women, it's my turn to give back to the next set of AF wives.
hugs!Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Talk to the recruiter about what? I am not too sure what you are asking but it is a pretty tough life. My husband is in the Navy and is gone ALL the time. We are about to go through our 3rd deployment in 3 years. We spend more time on sea duty than on shore duty. If you are committed you will get through it but you can not really prepare yourself because you will never know how hard it truly is until you go through it yourself. Best of luck.
Well, I know you asked for military wives, but I am a military sister. My brother is in the Army. He spent a year in bootcamp. (we did not get to see him at all) Then he came home for 2 weeks and was sent to WA (we live in GA) where he has been for a year. He is actually home on another 2 week leave and when he goes back he will go to Afghanastan.
Best advise i can give is if he does sign in make sure that the job he wants is in writing or they will screw your fiance over. My husband went in as a mechanic and then was told he couldn't do that after he was in meps right before basic and then he was going to be a meteorologist and when he didn't graduate on time because he broke his foot in warrior week he now can only work in security forces. Recruiters are actually the worst guys you can talk to because they will feed you a line of crap. My husband said basic training was nothing like what his recruiter told him. Also make sure that they don't get him in ';general enlistment'; because that means they can put him in anything and your fiance won't have anything to say about it. Just don't believe everything that recruiter tells you because his main job is to get your fiance in there and will tell you whatever it takes to get him in. We might have gotten a crappy recruiter but my husband doesn't want to be in security forces and neither do i because he was promised a job but because he didn't get it all in writing and signed by the right people he is stuck being in security forces weather he wants to be or not. I am actually praying that they do discharge him and then he can go back in 6 months and get a decent job and get it in writing that he gets that job only. good luck
Here are a couple of Military wives support forums. You may have to register to use them.
http://www.airforcewives.com/index.php/c鈥?/a>
http://forums.military.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Also this web site has a lot of info on joining the military
there's a section called join the military.
http://www.military.com/
A lot of info here too.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforcej鈥?/a>
Basically the Air Force is like any civilian company. After basic training and tech school for your job you go to your first duty station. Working hours are normally 7:30 to 4:30. M-F You may have to work a weekend shift. You may occasionally have to work shifts it depends on what your job is. You wouldn't be able to join him until his first duty station or if the tech school is long enough to make it worth while you could join him there. I suppose if it were over 4 months it would be worth moving.
As a military member your husband will have free health and dental care, 30 paid vacation days a year, additional pay for housing and to eat separately (at home) rather than if he were single and ate in the dining hall. You and your son will have free medical care and low cost dental care. Also the military has commissary stores for groceries. They charge wholesale price plus 4% for overhead. It saves about 25% over downtown depending on what you buy. You just have to shop carefully.
Where can someone with a short supply of money go to seek advice/therapy/help? I would love it if it were free?
I am having a hard time dealing with... well everything right now. I am having problems with work, relationships, life in general, myself, I need someone to talk to but I don't want to go to a therapist since I think that will end up costing too much money and I really am short on money now and can't afford to be using it on therapy but I can't stand how I am feeling now and really need to talk to someone about it but I am not good at all with telling people how I feel and honestly don't know who to turn to because I can't talk to my family about it, I don't have too many friends and the ones I do I don't feel right talking to them about my personal life. I just need help so please can someone point me in the right direction. I am seriously begging you for help. I just don't know what to do anymore.Where can someone with a short supply of money go to seek advice/therapy/help? I would love it if it were free?
We couldn't afford a psychologist, so we opted for a certified social worker (who was working towards their degree). They did charge a good deal less.Where can someone with a short supply of money go to seek advice/therapy/help? I would love it if it were free?
Call a crisis line. My friend used to work at one and she was a liscensed mental health professional. You can call even if you aren't having the kind of crisis where your considering suicide or something. People call when they have lost a loved pet or for any variety of reasons. Your community may have support groups, which are almost always free, for people facing specific issues. These are usually held at churches. You will have to look around to find one.
In Australia you can call Lifeline for free... is there something like that there? That would be my suggestion!
Also, go to your local library and start reading You Can Heal Your Life and similar self-help... help yourself whilst you try to find others!
I wish you the best of luck!
Look in your area phone book for community mental health centers. Call around and find out if any of them offer sliding scale fees. Sliding scale fees are based on your income, so if you don't make a lot, you don't spend a lot.
The answerer above has good advice
We couldn't afford a psychologist, so we opted for a certified social worker (who was working towards their degree). They did charge a good deal less.Where can someone with a short supply of money go to seek advice/therapy/help? I would love it if it were free?
Call a crisis line. My friend used to work at one and she was a liscensed mental health professional. You can call even if you aren't having the kind of crisis where your considering suicide or something. People call when they have lost a loved pet or for any variety of reasons. Your community may have support groups, which are almost always free, for people facing specific issues. These are usually held at churches. You will have to look around to find one.
In Australia you can call Lifeline for free... is there something like that there? That would be my suggestion!
Also, go to your local library and start reading You Can Heal Your Life and similar self-help... help yourself whilst you try to find others!
I wish you the best of luck!
Look in your area phone book for community mental health centers. Call around and find out if any of them offer sliding scale fees. Sliding scale fees are based on your income, so if you don't make a lot, you don't spend a lot.
The answerer above has good advice
Should I seek professional advice?
My mom recently got what I think is a spider bite on her calf when we were walking through the woods. After a day, it swelled so much that her entire calf was almost like one solid disk. After two days, she noticed that her ankle became swollen as well. There is no pain in neither her calf nor her ankle. Her calf itches though. She's also allergic to penicillin. Is this something I should worry about? or will it go away after a few days?Should I seek professional advice?
UH YEAH! go to a doctor. it could have been a poisonous spider.Should I seek professional advice?
GO TO THE DOCTOR! That is a reaction to poison! Penicillin is not the only way to treat such a reaction....please don't weight on this, take her immediatly!
UH YEAH! go to a doctor. it could have been a poisonous spider.Should I seek professional advice?
GO TO THE DOCTOR! That is a reaction to poison! Penicillin is not the only way to treat such a reaction....please don't weight on this, take her immediatly!
What do you think of my composition? English learner seek advice?
This is one diary I wrote describing the first time I went to classroom to conduct a self-study. I'm a university student. Here self-study is referred to as a from of study when there's no teacher, and you learn the book yourself.
My composition
Do you know how I feel about conducting self-study?
I started self-study one and a half weeks ago. It was a medium-sized classroom in building 2. I felt a little uncertain at the moment I set foot into the classroom, there were no more than 10 people. I could see most of them came here alone, so did I.
I found a place and seated myself. Then my first time self-study official began. I was feeling uncertain not only because this was my first time self-study. I'm in a habit of reading, I like learning English via reading loud. Since no one was reading except me, I felt a little uncomfortable at the very beginning. But it seemed no one cared about whether I was reading or not and noise outside overwhelmed my voice. I started feeling better while keeping my voice relatively lower than usual.
Time could fly when you're focused. I left the classroom at 9:30. Now self-study has become my hobby, and I'm sure this hobby will remain.
(END)
As an English learner, I like to wirte English diary to improve my writing. is this diary I wrote OK? I would appreciate if you could give me some advice.
Thanks for your advice.What do you think of my composition? English learner seek advice?
The content of your composition is not what one would expect from a tertiary student. It would be acceptable approximately at a grade 8 level. If I receive this from a tertiary student i would return it unmarked.
My composition
Do you know how I feel about conducting self-study?
I started self-study one and a half weeks ago. It was a medium-sized classroom in building 2. I felt a little uncertain at the moment I set foot into the classroom, there were no more than 10 people. I could see most of them came here alone, so did I.
I found a place and seated myself. Then my first time self-study official began. I was feeling uncertain not only because this was my first time self-study. I'm in a habit of reading, I like learning English via reading loud. Since no one was reading except me, I felt a little uncomfortable at the very beginning. But it seemed no one cared about whether I was reading or not and noise outside overwhelmed my voice. I started feeling better while keeping my voice relatively lower than usual.
Time could fly when you're focused. I left the classroom at 9:30. Now self-study has become my hobby, and I'm sure this hobby will remain.
(END)
As an English learner, I like to wirte English diary to improve my writing. is this diary I wrote OK? I would appreciate if you could give me some advice.
Thanks for your advice.What do you think of my composition? English learner seek advice?
The content of your composition is not what one would expect from a tertiary student. It would be acceptable approximately at a grade 8 level. If I receive this from a tertiary student i would return it unmarked.
How do i go about it where do i seek advice?
im 21 good looking female i have a good figure slim 5 foot 3 long blonde hair
and love dancing they say every body is good at someting for me its dancing i long for a career in the dancing industry but dont know how to go about it
i think it would be such a shame if i just give up because i dont know how to go about it because im really good im always getting compliments on the way i move my body
obviuosly im searching the web looooads
but keep getting the sites that seem so possitive but coming to the end of the site they ask for my bank details because they want some sort of fee
hahahahha do i look num er no!!!!
i feel like giving up i just dont know where to go to be reconised
and i carnt afford any sort of dance lessons so lessons is not an option
does anybody have any advice??
please dont replie with answers mocking my spelling if iv made mistakes i left school at 12 due to a bad and poor up bringing
most people reply to my questions telling me i crnt spell its not my fault im looking at starting english and maths lessons
if you have any advice for me on dancing would be appriciated
thank youHow do i go about it where do i seek advice?
Most people who teach dancing have been to dance school and passed many exams. So its hard to get in anywhere without such qualifications. However if you just want to dance without any of these maybe you could join a local drama group, these can be such fun and could lead to roles on stage.
You can find your local amateur drama groups through your library or yellow pages or some use church halls as their venue.
You can also contact your local council and they would have a list of dance groups for adults, some teach tap and modern and salsa and these are not expensive and usually start from beginners for adults.
Sadly you will not be recognised unless you have qualifications or you could try and get on one of the T.V programmes who are looking for natural talented people.
Good luck, don't give up I am sure you will find something suitable. Dance classes seem to be the in thing at the moment and you should find something just to suit you.How do i go about it where do i seek advice?
Heh I can only guess that the references to mocking and spelling mistakes landed you in this section, love? :)
You need a day job and make dancing your pastime. You will most likely be accepted as you really are and find your true happiness..
It would depend where in the world you are and what type of dance you are good at.
Try Yellow Pages.cosmetics coupons
and love dancing they say every body is good at someting for me its dancing i long for a career in the dancing industry but dont know how to go about it
i think it would be such a shame if i just give up because i dont know how to go about it because im really good im always getting compliments on the way i move my body
obviuosly im searching the web looooads
but keep getting the sites that seem so possitive but coming to the end of the site they ask for my bank details because they want some sort of fee
hahahahha do i look num er no!!!!
i feel like giving up i just dont know where to go to be reconised
and i carnt afford any sort of dance lessons so lessons is not an option
does anybody have any advice??
please dont replie with answers mocking my spelling if iv made mistakes i left school at 12 due to a bad and poor up bringing
most people reply to my questions telling me i crnt spell its not my fault im looking at starting english and maths lessons
if you have any advice for me on dancing would be appriciated
thank youHow do i go about it where do i seek advice?
Most people who teach dancing have been to dance school and passed many exams. So its hard to get in anywhere without such qualifications. However if you just want to dance without any of these maybe you could join a local drama group, these can be such fun and could lead to roles on stage.
You can find your local amateur drama groups through your library or yellow pages or some use church halls as their venue.
You can also contact your local council and they would have a list of dance groups for adults, some teach tap and modern and salsa and these are not expensive and usually start from beginners for adults.
Sadly you will not be recognised unless you have qualifications or you could try and get on one of the T.V programmes who are looking for natural talented people.
Good luck, don't give up I am sure you will find something suitable. Dance classes seem to be the in thing at the moment and you should find something just to suit you.How do i go about it where do i seek advice?
Heh I can only guess that the references to mocking and spelling mistakes landed you in this section, love? :)
You need a day job and make dancing your pastime. You will most likely be accepted as you really are and find your true happiness..
It would depend where in the world you are and what type of dance you are good at.
Try Yellow Pages.
I have a problem with my prom dress, i seek advice again, plz help?
i bought a dress in a boutique and i realize i forgot to ask for a receipt. the prom dress i bought, i made a deposit and finally paid everything
but my mom and sister criticize my prom dress , but my 2 friends who went with me to look for a prom dress said it was perfect
i value my sister opinion because she is just too straightforward (friends don't say mean thing, but rarely on this situation)
maybe i have a change of mind and i want to exchange it, but will they be able to accept my request? am i being selfish but i want my dress to be perfect and by doing so, is it an insult to the boutique's ownerI have a problem with my prom dress, i seek advice again, plz help?
...remind me who is waring the prom dress? ...your sister, your mom, your friends, or YOU? Take the dress back if YOU'VE decided it isn't quite right, and buy the one YOU think is perfect!!
Don't worry about insulting the boutique. I am sure you are not the first to return a dress... and have a terrific time at YOUR prom!!! ( :I have a problem with my prom dress, i seek advice again, plz help?
It doesn't matter what your mom, sister, or friends say about your dress. All that matters is if you like it. If you decide you want a different one, take it back and tell them that they didn't give you a receipt. Then go here http://www.google.com/products?q=prom+dr鈥?/a> and find one you do like. At the bottom they have a place where you can type in your price range.
but my mom and sister criticize my prom dress , but my 2 friends who went with me to look for a prom dress said it was perfect
i value my sister opinion because she is just too straightforward (friends don't say mean thing, but rarely on this situation)
maybe i have a change of mind and i want to exchange it, but will they be able to accept my request? am i being selfish but i want my dress to be perfect and by doing so, is it an insult to the boutique's ownerI have a problem with my prom dress, i seek advice again, plz help?
...remind me who is waring the prom dress? ...your sister, your mom, your friends, or YOU? Take the dress back if YOU'VE decided it isn't quite right, and buy the one YOU think is perfect!!
Don't worry about insulting the boutique. I am sure you are not the first to return a dress... and have a terrific time at YOUR prom!!! ( :I have a problem with my prom dress, i seek advice again, plz help?
It doesn't matter what your mom, sister, or friends say about your dress. All that matters is if you like it. If you decide you want a different one, take it back and tell them that they didn't give you a receipt. Then go here http://www.google.com/products?q=prom+dr鈥?/a> and find one you do like. At the bottom they have a place where you can type in your price range.
Has he emotionally left the relationship? I really seek advice!?
ok first i just had a baby 9 wks ago. i also have a 3 1/2 yr old. both girls. my husband was really hoping for a boy but he is happy with a girl. i think?
latley we have been fighting alot. im tierd as u could imagine, and hes being really lazy. He has 2 part time jobs to make up for a full time. he works 2 nightshift at one and the day at another. so it does throw his schedual off a bit. but all he does is sleep when hes here, or play video games or watch mma shows on the net. hes not really interested in me or the kids. i braught it upto him kinda hoping he would talk and open upto me and he kinda got his back up and said I begged him for another baby, and its my fault, i made my bed now lie in it. like what the hell is that suppost to mean. he doesnt want to help and is basically telling me he is unhappy. last night he was saying i was begging him for another baby and he just finally ';gave'; me one. which really hurt my feelings and made me feel like **** cause we planned her together.. what is going on in his head, what would make him say this to me. he has been sleeping for at least 10 -12 hrs now, but i dont want to wake him, i dont care to see him. Is he done with us? I want to rekindle the relationship and he just yells at me and says kids ruin romance and doesnt want to work at it. I catch him watching porn all the time, and it sucks cause I am more willing now then ever to have a sex life and that makes me feel terrible too... Im kinda feeling traped ... he doesnt love me does he?Has he emotionally left the relationship? I really seek advice!?
Leave him alone. He works two jobs for goodness sake!Has he emotionally left the relationship? I really seek advice!?
The truth is one of the hardest things you will ever have to hear. It may be true that you planned your little girl (which I'm sure is precious) but, in his mind he has titled her as ';your baby'; that you ';begged him'; for, and that's the only truth he knows. I feel for you, I'm in a similar situation with my husband, although he isn't as mean. I reccomend counseling, but if that's not possible, this is really a matter of how much you are willing to sacrifice. I'm sure its not too late, and he still loves you, he is frustrated with the lack of intimacy too. You have to work harder, make time for the two of you, I have been spending the evenings working to get my 7 week old to sleep long enough for us to make love or just cuddle and enjoy each other. Whatever you do, don't accuse or blame him for the problems, men are pretty simple, and they want things simple, if the baby is in your room find a place for her away from you two. I put the bassinet in our bathroom and turn the shower on, the warmth and sound keeps her sleeping, and it gives us privacy. You will lose more sleep, you will be uncomfortable dressing up everyday, but, if you want it to work, you need to do it. Be chipper, happy, pretty and non complaining and your energy will radiate!!
Good luck : )
I think he's being selfish and childish. He needs to man-up and recognize this is his life now and everything works better when both partners do their fair share. The kids are there to stay, and wishing they weren't there won't do any good. It's difficult for me to have sympathy for him because many men have gone through a similar situation, and they help the way a man in a relationship should help. I also find it difficult to understand why he doesn't seem to have a natural affection for his own children.
Unfortunately I don't know how you change his behavior. Complaining too much will drive him away. But I also don't think you can just let him off the hook. I'm sorry I can't offer more help.
Just hold tight and be strong for the kids. I know you are stressed and maybe even a little depressed. He sounds extremely immature though. Good luck.
Tell him that either HE can be the man and hold you: or another man will.
** the previous answers really don't understand because they've never done this very hard thing you are doing!
What about your being stressed? What about your being depressed? You are the one with the involuntary hormone fluxuations! Tell him that he can stay home all he wants and cook and clean and take care of the babies, while YOU go out an get two part time jobs (way EASIER gig than all you do at home!) and tell him you EXPECT the house and kids to be in the same order you pull now.
MEN HAVE THE EASIEST GIG! Go out to work and come home- eat, sleep, $h!T- so f*ckin' easy!
I don't have the time to write the list of what women have to do PLUS make sure that the marriage is flowing? Screw it- if he doesn't want to care for you- there are LOADS of men out there who are lonely and ready for a marriage with beautiful children to mold (even baby girls!)
He is overwhelmed. If you want to rekindle the relationship you have to be kind to him. Kill him with kindness. Look past every nasty thing he says until, he stops. He will stop. It takes two to fight. It only takes one to make a positive change.
he probably feel s overwhelmed. he has two jobs (yes i know they are part time) two kids and a wife that wants him to come home from work and pay attention to her. he probably just wants to relax after work and before he goes to his next job. he may have thought that this was the life he wanted but now that he has it he may have realized that this isn't what he wants. it's a lot of work being a husband and a dad and having two jobs. try to talk to him and see if he will tell you what is going on. don't attack him just tell him you know he is under a lot of stress and that you are worried about him.
This does not sound like a man who wanted another child, or if he did, the reality is more difficult than he anticipated. All you can really do is try to talk to him and hope this improves. I'm sorry you're so alone in this.
Wow! sounds like he is a real jerk!! If my man ever said that stuff to me I would be out! Your girls should not grow up thinking his behavior is acceptable. He is a selfish person, who doesn't think.....at all. I am so sorry to hear he treats you this way. Especially since you JUST HAD A BABY!!! F*** him. Wait, don't.
Sounds like he possibly could be suffering with depression, men tend to vent it out through anger. Also, those depressed tend to sleep a lot and take themselves away from things. (my husband deals w/ depression) I would try suggesting counsling, either individual for him or couples. It could help with communicating better and understanding why he is unhappy. It could possibly be ';the kids';, maybe he wasn't exactly ready for the responsiblity even though he may have wanted them and now he doesn't know how to react or work on it. Try talking a bit more and simply tell him how you feel and that you are not trying to burden him or put any blame on him, you just want to work on things together. Trying to talk about things in a different way could really help.
latley we have been fighting alot. im tierd as u could imagine, and hes being really lazy. He has 2 part time jobs to make up for a full time. he works 2 nightshift at one and the day at another. so it does throw his schedual off a bit. but all he does is sleep when hes here, or play video games or watch mma shows on the net. hes not really interested in me or the kids. i braught it upto him kinda hoping he would talk and open upto me and he kinda got his back up and said I begged him for another baby, and its my fault, i made my bed now lie in it. like what the hell is that suppost to mean. he doesnt want to help and is basically telling me he is unhappy. last night he was saying i was begging him for another baby and he just finally ';gave'; me one. which really hurt my feelings and made me feel like **** cause we planned her together.. what is going on in his head, what would make him say this to me. he has been sleeping for at least 10 -12 hrs now, but i dont want to wake him, i dont care to see him. Is he done with us? I want to rekindle the relationship and he just yells at me and says kids ruin romance and doesnt want to work at it. I catch him watching porn all the time, and it sucks cause I am more willing now then ever to have a sex life and that makes me feel terrible too... Im kinda feeling traped ... he doesnt love me does he?Has he emotionally left the relationship? I really seek advice!?
Leave him alone. He works two jobs for goodness sake!Has he emotionally left the relationship? I really seek advice!?
The truth is one of the hardest things you will ever have to hear. It may be true that you planned your little girl (which I'm sure is precious) but, in his mind he has titled her as ';your baby'; that you ';begged him'; for, and that's the only truth he knows. I feel for you, I'm in a similar situation with my husband, although he isn't as mean. I reccomend counseling, but if that's not possible, this is really a matter of how much you are willing to sacrifice. I'm sure its not too late, and he still loves you, he is frustrated with the lack of intimacy too. You have to work harder, make time for the two of you, I have been spending the evenings working to get my 7 week old to sleep long enough for us to make love or just cuddle and enjoy each other. Whatever you do, don't accuse or blame him for the problems, men are pretty simple, and they want things simple, if the baby is in your room find a place for her away from you two. I put the bassinet in our bathroom and turn the shower on, the warmth and sound keeps her sleeping, and it gives us privacy. You will lose more sleep, you will be uncomfortable dressing up everyday, but, if you want it to work, you need to do it. Be chipper, happy, pretty and non complaining and your energy will radiate!!
Good luck : )
I think he's being selfish and childish. He needs to man-up and recognize this is his life now and everything works better when both partners do their fair share. The kids are there to stay, and wishing they weren't there won't do any good. It's difficult for me to have sympathy for him because many men have gone through a similar situation, and they help the way a man in a relationship should help. I also find it difficult to understand why he doesn't seem to have a natural affection for his own children.
Unfortunately I don't know how you change his behavior. Complaining too much will drive him away. But I also don't think you can just let him off the hook. I'm sorry I can't offer more help.
Just hold tight and be strong for the kids. I know you are stressed and maybe even a little depressed. He sounds extremely immature though. Good luck.
Tell him that either HE can be the man and hold you: or another man will.
** the previous answers really don't understand because they've never done this very hard thing you are doing!
What about your being stressed? What about your being depressed? You are the one with the involuntary hormone fluxuations! Tell him that he can stay home all he wants and cook and clean and take care of the babies, while YOU go out an get two part time jobs (way EASIER gig than all you do at home!) and tell him you EXPECT the house and kids to be in the same order you pull now.
MEN HAVE THE EASIEST GIG! Go out to work and come home- eat, sleep, $h!T- so f*ckin' easy!
I don't have the time to write the list of what women have to do PLUS make sure that the marriage is flowing? Screw it- if he doesn't want to care for you- there are LOADS of men out there who are lonely and ready for a marriage with beautiful children to mold (even baby girls!)
He is overwhelmed. If you want to rekindle the relationship you have to be kind to him. Kill him with kindness. Look past every nasty thing he says until, he stops. He will stop. It takes two to fight. It only takes one to make a positive change.
he probably feel s overwhelmed. he has two jobs (yes i know they are part time) two kids and a wife that wants him to come home from work and pay attention to her. he probably just wants to relax after work and before he goes to his next job. he may have thought that this was the life he wanted but now that he has it he may have realized that this isn't what he wants. it's a lot of work being a husband and a dad and having two jobs. try to talk to him and see if he will tell you what is going on. don't attack him just tell him you know he is under a lot of stress and that you are worried about him.
This does not sound like a man who wanted another child, or if he did, the reality is more difficult than he anticipated. All you can really do is try to talk to him and hope this improves. I'm sorry you're so alone in this.
Wow! sounds like he is a real jerk!! If my man ever said that stuff to me I would be out! Your girls should not grow up thinking his behavior is acceptable. He is a selfish person, who doesn't think.....at all. I am so sorry to hear he treats you this way. Especially since you JUST HAD A BABY!!! F*** him. Wait, don't.
Sounds like he possibly could be suffering with depression, men tend to vent it out through anger. Also, those depressed tend to sleep a lot and take themselves away from things. (my husband deals w/ depression) I would try suggesting counsling, either individual for him or couples. It could help with communicating better and understanding why he is unhappy. It could possibly be ';the kids';, maybe he wasn't exactly ready for the responsiblity even though he may have wanted them and now he doesn't know how to react or work on it. Try talking a bit more and simply tell him how you feel and that you are not trying to burden him or put any blame on him, you just want to work on things together. Trying to talk about things in a different way could really help.
Why do you think we seek the advice of priests or religious men?
aren't we equal in the eyes of God?....i dont understand why people confess to them or why do people say they are more experienced than us..how?Why do you think we seek the advice of priests or religious men?
It is a deception that you can get past the sin in your life by just confessing to God. You need to be accountable to someone on the earth that can hear where you have failed and give advice or a plan of action to help you do better in the future.
The office of priest does not indicate that he is perfect of better than you only that he has taken vows to help you on the path toward God and keep your secrets to himself.Why do you think we seek the advice of priests or religious men?
the bible teaches the value of a multitude of counselors
I ask my pastor stuff all the time
sometimes I just can't see beyond the situation
ultimately though I must do what the Lord leads me to as long as it does not contradict his revealed will as given in the bible.
in other words, I don't have to ask anyone or pray to god asking if I should commit adultery, it's already in there as wrong.
We are to carry one anothers burdens too
Jesus wants us to help each other it's how he decided things should be done.
because they had their mind brainwashed: religious teach to obey.
because some of them knows more spiritual stuff than us
Because instead of being responsible for our own actions we gave the responsibility to someone eles.So we can go on our merry complacent way thinking things are OK.When life goes wrong,loose money,house ,love everything.....we can blame everything but ourselves.All these people do is dress up in cloaks and masks and read from a book.
We are all equally dead without Christ, don't turn to the dead men for life but to the Lord always.
ideally,( i say this because in most cases priests are not really all that *pure*) people would go to priests and religious leaders because they would be so-called ';detached'; from worldly materials and sins. which is why they woudln't marry, have sex or engage in immoral behavior.
We are conditioned to prejudge people. Priests represent what is perceived as good and moral in society so people prejudge them as being good and moral without question. They often consider them as being above other people. This is why pedophile priests find it easy to get access to children because of peoples trusting nature to men of the cloth.
It is a deception that you can get past the sin in your life by just confessing to God. You need to be accountable to someone on the earth that can hear where you have failed and give advice or a plan of action to help you do better in the future.
The office of priest does not indicate that he is perfect of better than you only that he has taken vows to help you on the path toward God and keep your secrets to himself.Why do you think we seek the advice of priests or religious men?
the bible teaches the value of a multitude of counselors
I ask my pastor stuff all the time
sometimes I just can't see beyond the situation
ultimately though I must do what the Lord leads me to as long as it does not contradict his revealed will as given in the bible.
in other words, I don't have to ask anyone or pray to god asking if I should commit adultery, it's already in there as wrong.
We are to carry one anothers burdens too
Jesus wants us to help each other it's how he decided things should be done.
because they had their mind brainwashed: religious teach to obey.
because some of them knows more spiritual stuff than us
Because instead of being responsible for our own actions we gave the responsibility to someone eles.So we can go on our merry complacent way thinking things are OK.When life goes wrong,loose money,house ,love everything.....we can blame everything but ourselves.All these people do is dress up in cloaks and masks and read from a book.
We are all equally dead without Christ, don't turn to the dead men for life but to the Lord always.
ideally,( i say this because in most cases priests are not really all that *pure*) people would go to priests and religious leaders because they would be so-called ';detached'; from worldly materials and sins. which is why they woudln't marry, have sex or engage in immoral behavior.
We are conditioned to prejudge people. Priests represent what is perceived as good and moral in society so people prejudge them as being good and moral without question. They often consider them as being above other people. This is why pedophile priests find it easy to get access to children because of peoples trusting nature to men of the cloth.
1st time travellers to Buenos Aires seek advice from fellow travellers there as to hotels, tourist sites, etc.
Next month, we're going to Chile, Antartica, and Argentina. We'll only have four days in/around Buenos Aires and have never been.
1. Where to stay? We'd like a moderately priced hotel that is clean, comfortable, and close to the city centre. Neighborhood must be safe. We don't care about conference space or anything like that. Any personal recommendations from recent visits?
2. Best tourist sites for middle-aged, healthy couple, i.e., not interested in night clubs featuring, say, rap music. But a bohemian section of town might be fun. We'd be more interested in traditional culture.
3. Any particularly good city bus tours?
4. Best restaurants for really nice dining. More interested in quality of food than atmosphere, but ambience is nice, too. Caveat: we don't like seafood. Isn't the beef supposed to be fantastic? Pricey ok
4. Any unusual, out-of-the way places not always on the tourist map that anyone might have experienced and really recommend?
Tx1st time travellers to Buenos Aires seek advice from fellow travellers there as to hotels, tourist sites, etc.
Buenos Aires is the most European of all Latin American cities. You麓ll fall in love with the city the minute you land. Don麓t miss ';asado'; (barbecue), ';bife de chorizo'; (something like T Bone steak, far better) and tango lessons offered at fine prices.
Have a great trip!
Explore these sites...1st time travellers to Buenos Aires seek advice from fellow travellers there as to hotels, tourist sites, etc.
Hi,
first welcome to Argentina,
I recommend to stay at palermo neighborhood,or preferently las ca帽itas is more safe and quite than palermo hollywood.
and my suggestion you can rent an apartment than a hotel,why?
because you are more safe and you haven`t restrictions about visits and you have different prices,
about culture I recommend you: san telmo,palermo,recoleta,congreso,.
in san telmo you can visit: ortodox russian's church,the museum at lazama's park,older and tangero`s bars where our singers wrote their songs.the most famous are: el viejo almacen,el bar britanico,michel angelo.
congreso: you can visit tortoni`s cafe.congreso's square,
recoleta's area: recoleta`s cemetery is one of the most famous cemetery in the world,where evita's response,the sculptures are very interesting and this cemetery was the first in buenos aires.
then you have recoleta`s cultural center where you can see expositions,art,etc,crossing libertador avenue you have bellas artes museum.
retiro area: you have ''british tower''
palermo: you can see the zoo,botanical`s garden,malba museum.uhh you have much more places to visit.
I work in travel services and I do tours. and I send you the website where you have more information.
please any question,send me messagge.
http://www.barts.com.ar
( website only in English)
best regards.
Hi Lew,
I would recommend you to stay in Palermo Viejo or Palermo Soho districts while in Buenos Aires.
Plaza Serrano (Serrano Square) has a nice atmosphere, full of restaurants and coffee places apart from being close to everything.
Puerto Madero and Recoleta districts are not to be missed and of course La Boca, very charming suburb.
Please check the link bellow for more info on things to do in Buenos Aires.
Happy Travels,
Daniel
1. Where to stay? We'd like a moderately priced hotel that is clean, comfortable, and close to the city centre. Neighborhood must be safe. We don't care about conference space or anything like that. Any personal recommendations from recent visits?
2. Best tourist sites for middle-aged, healthy couple, i.e., not interested in night clubs featuring, say, rap music. But a bohemian section of town might be fun. We'd be more interested in traditional culture.
3. Any particularly good city bus tours?
4. Best restaurants for really nice dining. More interested in quality of food than atmosphere, but ambience is nice, too. Caveat: we don't like seafood. Isn't the beef supposed to be fantastic? Pricey ok
4. Any unusual, out-of-the way places not always on the tourist map that anyone might have experienced and really recommend?
Tx1st time travellers to Buenos Aires seek advice from fellow travellers there as to hotels, tourist sites, etc.
Buenos Aires is the most European of all Latin American cities. You麓ll fall in love with the city the minute you land. Don麓t miss ';asado'; (barbecue), ';bife de chorizo'; (something like T Bone steak, far better) and tango lessons offered at fine prices.
Have a great trip!
Explore these sites...1st time travellers to Buenos Aires seek advice from fellow travellers there as to hotels, tourist sites, etc.
Hi,
first welcome to Argentina,
I recommend to stay at palermo neighborhood,or preferently las ca帽itas is more safe and quite than palermo hollywood.
and my suggestion you can rent an apartment than a hotel,why?
because you are more safe and you haven`t restrictions about visits and you have different prices,
about culture I recommend you: san telmo,palermo,recoleta,congreso,.
in san telmo you can visit: ortodox russian's church,the museum at lazama's park,older and tangero`s bars where our singers wrote their songs.the most famous are: el viejo almacen,el bar britanico,michel angelo.
congreso: you can visit tortoni`s cafe.congreso's square,
recoleta's area: recoleta`s cemetery is one of the most famous cemetery in the world,where evita's response,the sculptures are very interesting and this cemetery was the first in buenos aires.
then you have recoleta`s cultural center where you can see expositions,art,etc,crossing libertador avenue you have bellas artes museum.
retiro area: you have ''british tower''
palermo: you can see the zoo,botanical`s garden,malba museum.uhh you have much more places to visit.
I work in travel services and I do tours. and I send you the website where you have more information.
please any question,send me messagge.
http://www.barts.com.ar
( website only in English)
best regards.
Hi Lew,
I would recommend you to stay in Palermo Viejo or Palermo Soho districts while in Buenos Aires.
Plaza Serrano (Serrano Square) has a nice atmosphere, full of restaurants and coffee places apart from being close to everything.
Puerto Madero and Recoleta districts are not to be missed and of course La Boca, very charming suburb.
Please check the link bellow for more info on things to do in Buenos Aires.
Happy Travels,
Daniel
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how much would that cost?
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~I paid the Rent for August, 2008
~my least ends December 15, 2008
~I gave my landlord a 30 day notice end of June, just like the lease says I should do If I'm going to move out. I lost my job so I wouldn't be able to handle anymore rents.
~landlord says that If I pay for August and leave before the second week of August I don't have to paid for the remaining months on my lease. That's what I did.
~My water and Electricity was turned off end of July because I couldn't afford to pay for them for the month of August. I lived pay check to pay check.
~ My landlord kept my deposit and said that things in my apartment were broken. like the sink, but I remember telling the lady directing when we did the walk-through that the sink was wobbling. It's not broken, it wobbles.
~Today my landlord is trying to get me to pay Extra Rent %26amp; Extra for damage that I didn't Do?
~Even if my landlord kept the deposit, the total my landlord wants me to pay is 2 months worth of rent.
~ SHould I pay it? I have all the information. Except my landlord never gave me a copy of my 30-notice. Still have not gotten my deposit back.How much is it to just seek advice from a law firm?
I can guarantee you that the cost of a lawyer will far exceed the amount you owe your landlord.
Unless you got something in writing stating that you are not responsible for the remainder of the lease, you are still responsible for the rent until the lease ends.
Regarding the extra damage, you don't list the extra damage. Get an itemized list of damage. If the sink is wabbly, it is damaged and isn't a normal wear and tear expected, so you are responsible.
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~I moved out of my apartment in July, 2008
~I paid the Rent for August, 2008
~my least ends December 15, 2008
~I gave my landlord a 30 day notice end of June, just like the lease says I should do If I'm going to move out. I lost my job so I wouldn't be able to handle anymore rents.
~landlord says that If I pay for August and leave before the second week of August I don't have to paid for the remaining months on my lease. That's what I did.
~My water and Electricity was turned off end of July because I couldn't afford to pay for them for the month of August. I lived pay check to pay check.
~ My landlord kept my deposit and said that things in my apartment were broken. like the sink, but I remember telling the lady directing when we did the walk-through that the sink was wobbling. It's not broken, it wobbles.
~Today my landlord is trying to get me to pay Extra Rent %26amp; Extra for damage that I didn't Do?
~Even if my landlord kept the deposit, the total my landlord wants me to pay is 2 months worth of rent.
~ SHould I pay it? I have all the information. Except my landlord never gave me a copy of my 30-notice. Still have not gotten my deposit back.How much is it to just seek advice from a law firm?
I can guarantee you that the cost of a lawyer will far exceed the amount you owe your landlord.
Unless you got something in writing stating that you are not responsible for the remainder of the lease, you are still responsible for the rent until the lease ends.
Regarding the extra damage, you don't list the extra damage. Get an itemized list of damage. If the sink is wabbly, it is damaged and isn't a normal wear and tear expected, so you are responsible.
Did you do a walk through before you moved in? If not, take this as a lesson learned in the importance of a careful walk through both before and after you move in.
Is it ok/safe if I seek advice here about a screenplay I wrote?
Hi I'm an aspiring screenwriter, I copyright all my work and register all of them with the WGA as well. I was wondering if it would be a good idea to post my logline/summary on here for some advice on it. Reason is I am having some issues with the overall execution with my concept even though the concept itself is very original, there are some believability issues (then again a lot of movies have those issues like ';Armageddon';, etc. yet they still get made).
So should I post it on here or no? Please dont tell me to seek a script doctor they cost too much. This is much easier on here and quicker and its for free.Is it ok/safe if I seek advice here about a screenplay I wrote?
I wouldnt post anything on here that you call your own work.
Ideas are too easy to steal.Is it ok/safe if I seek advice here about a screenplay I wrote?
I wouldn't recommend you post in here. Join a writer's group, a screenwriters Group online, there are many free ones and very good. I am a screenwriter myself and I have been posting and receiving critiques that are very helpful. Besides you would be posting amongst your peers (screenwriters as you are)
Good Luck!!
sure....if there are any good ideas I will steal them
good luck
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I think it would be A-ok. The only restrictions on here are if your question gets reported (which is unlikely in your case) or cursing. Which you can easily substitute.
So should I post it on here or no? Please dont tell me to seek a script doctor they cost too much. This is much easier on here and quicker and its for free.Is it ok/safe if I seek advice here about a screenplay I wrote?
I wouldnt post anything on here that you call your own work.
Ideas are too easy to steal.Is it ok/safe if I seek advice here about a screenplay I wrote?
I wouldn't recommend you post in here. Join a writer's group, a screenwriters Group online, there are many free ones and very good. I am a screenwriter myself and I have been posting and receiving critiques that are very helpful. Besides you would be posting amongst your peers (screenwriters as you are)
Good Luck!!
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I think it would be A-ok. The only restrictions on here are if your question gets reported (which is unlikely in your case) or cursing. Which you can easily substitute.
Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
Today's society has very relaxed rules as it pertains to the what is proper etiquette between men and women, and because of it infidelity, divorce, and STDs are at an all time high. It is my view that once men and women are in committed relationships or married they need to be a damper on seeking advice, insight, and conversation from members of the opposite sex. Far too often ';male'; and ';female'; friends have ulterior motives and hidden agendas when dishing out relationship advice. After all is said and done when one decides upon a companion of the opposite sex it should be a person intelligent enough to resolve the issues that will arise or at least sensible enough to seek out a solution and bring it back home.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
Agreed.
Me and my husband do not allow anyone into our union. Physically, spiritually or otherwise.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
It is not okay only because this has so much potential for turning into a relationship. I have seen this happen.
you are right but i suppose that us humans just need to feel validated. but most trouble begins when we bring others into our relationship
I disagree. The happiest, most resilient people are the ones with more strong relationships, with both genders. Research confirms this over and over again. Different people offer different perspectives and other sources of support. I don't like stereotyping, but often a ';female perspective'; or ';male perspective'; can be helpful. Why limit your friendships to half the people you might otherwise connect with in some fashion?
If your spouse is committed and you can trust him/her, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, then your relationship is on rocky ground regardless. As for ';friends'; with ulterior motives, these aren't true friends and you and your spouse will figure that out quickly enough. You should be sharing information enough to figure that out.
Seeking advice from and confiding in a person of the opposite sex is the first step to an affair. My husband and I have an agreement that we will not discuss each other and our marriage with the opposite sex. It is great, though, to have these discussions with members of the same sex who have stable, strong marriages. Their advice can be invaluable.
Its not always alterior motives or secret agendas, its more the fact that seeking comfort from the opposite sex will lead you more into their arms because they understand and you can cry on their shoulder, and further away from your spouse. My husband and I both agree not to go to the opposite sex for advice or comfort. There are exceptions of course... siblings and cousins. But in general, it's never a good idea and usually leads to disaster
Agreed.
Me and my husband do not allow anyone into our union. Physically, spiritually or otherwise.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
It is not okay only because this has so much potential for turning into a relationship. I have seen this happen.
you are right but i suppose that us humans just need to feel validated. but most trouble begins when we bring others into our relationship
I disagree. The happiest, most resilient people are the ones with more strong relationships, with both genders. Research confirms this over and over again. Different people offer different perspectives and other sources of support. I don't like stereotyping, but often a ';female perspective'; or ';male perspective'; can be helpful. Why limit your friendships to half the people you might otherwise connect with in some fashion?
If your spouse is committed and you can trust him/her, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, then your relationship is on rocky ground regardless. As for ';friends'; with ulterior motives, these aren't true friends and you and your spouse will figure that out quickly enough. You should be sharing information enough to figure that out.
Seeking advice from and confiding in a person of the opposite sex is the first step to an affair. My husband and I have an agreement that we will not discuss each other and our marriage with the opposite sex. It is great, though, to have these discussions with members of the same sex who have stable, strong marriages. Their advice can be invaluable.
Its not always alterior motives or secret agendas, its more the fact that seeking comfort from the opposite sex will lead you more into their arms because they understand and you can cry on their shoulder, and further away from your spouse. My husband and I both agree not to go to the opposite sex for advice or comfort. There are exceptions of course... siblings and cousins. But in general, it's never a good idea and usually leads to disaster
I'm so lonely, I seek advice?
Okay, for starters, i'm 15 and i'm pretty much a hermit, i'm not really social in real life, however i'm a gamer and so I have friends and such on FFXI.
Please, if your just going to tell me to wait and suggest to enjoy life as a kid, or go out and meet people, don't. I'm really alot more mature than most fifteen year olds, and I know what I want. You could call this a phase, or something youv went through, but I want someone to spend my life with.
As far as the social thing goes, I don't want to have to do things thats not me, I don't want to do things I wouldn't do. So it really comes down to meeting someone via internet, which is really hard, for thoughs of you who have tried it im sure you know what I mean.
I don't want to spend my life dating around, or what some call it ';practicing for the real deal'; I want to make the mistakes with the right girl, and work them out together. What do I do? I'm really lonely, i'm really desperet.I'm so lonely, I seek advice?
Alright, first of all I'm just gonna say that at 15 the chances of you finding the person you are gonna spend your life with is remote. But, I understand the whole ';wanting someone'; thing. So I'll suggest this.
I totally get the whole ';not wanting to things'; that aren't you. Mayeb you should try finding an Arcade (you say you like games) or some gaming tournements. Socialize a little bit, but it would be with fellow gamers so automatically there would be things in common to talk about.
I personally am not a big fan of finding love on the internet. Especially at 15. But, thats me personally.
Your kinda hoping for the fairytale. ';The one person.'; Making mistakes and working them out. It's kinda not reality. Your expectations are too high. You can't expect there to be ';that one'; person. The odds are against you.
I wish you all the luck though, And these are just my opinions. You know whats best for you. Good luck!I'm so lonely, I seek advice?
Remember you always learn though your mistakes, but that doesn't mean the girl will stick around for you to figure out what they were.
My advice is make friends who share your interests. And if you don't have any, get some man! Art, music, sports, politics, religion, even Warhammer just anything. Only ask people to hang out when you have something to do, for instance you could ';Play music together'; or ';Goto a show'; smoke pot and play N64! Never be too pushy. Remember if your the only one thats calling and they never call you, thats a sign.
For girls, IT';S EASY! just treat them like they're other guys you want to be simply friends with. Never ask to go out, ask to hang out, your intentions will be clear without saying anything. Let them make the first move, it may take a week or a month, but it's better to wait it out than to be shot down within a few days a loose a friend.
Good Luck!
you know what you want, so do not be desperate in accepting something that is not what you are looking for. you are more mature than most people your age, and what you are seeking is honorable and so don't put yourself down for it. Lonliness happens, but it will get better. be careful seeking people on the internet, you don't know who you really are talking to. could be some perv.
Enjoy your age....
with joy and pain that it brings....
i wish i could be 15 again...
oh God
dont end up smoking weed, other than that, learn to make money
dont be desperet
I'm 16 and from what i red i somewhat understand. I can't say I do cause i don't know you.
I'm feeling similar though. Its not so much that i'm not social but that people my age are idiots, drink,smoke,sex,date like crazy and follow the crowd. People say that you should date around and see what you like. I think thats the dumbest piece of advice i ever heard. Let's just say that your are on the right mental path and people like you are the people who find true lov, because you already know what you want and don't want so your ahead of alot of people there. Its just a matter of time to wait for that person.
Don't feel lonely though. You're young just like me, we aren't supposed to find our true loves yet.
Patience.
dude, im 16 and lost my virginity at 15. it was tight! she bled and all! what u need is to get laid and run! dont date, i dated this girl and had sex w/ her in 6 days... way too long. just ask someone if u can have sex w/ them cuz ur desperate... thats all dude. good luck to u and remember... USE A CONDOM ! ! !
Please, if your just going to tell me to wait and suggest to enjoy life as a kid, or go out and meet people, don't. I'm really alot more mature than most fifteen year olds, and I know what I want. You could call this a phase, or something youv went through, but I want someone to spend my life with.
As far as the social thing goes, I don't want to have to do things thats not me, I don't want to do things I wouldn't do. So it really comes down to meeting someone via internet, which is really hard, for thoughs of you who have tried it im sure you know what I mean.
I don't want to spend my life dating around, or what some call it ';practicing for the real deal'; I want to make the mistakes with the right girl, and work them out together. What do I do? I'm really lonely, i'm really desperet.I'm so lonely, I seek advice?
Alright, first of all I'm just gonna say that at 15 the chances of you finding the person you are gonna spend your life with is remote. But, I understand the whole ';wanting someone'; thing. So I'll suggest this.
I totally get the whole ';not wanting to things'; that aren't you. Mayeb you should try finding an Arcade (you say you like games) or some gaming tournements. Socialize a little bit, but it would be with fellow gamers so automatically there would be things in common to talk about.
I personally am not a big fan of finding love on the internet. Especially at 15. But, thats me personally.
Your kinda hoping for the fairytale. ';The one person.'; Making mistakes and working them out. It's kinda not reality. Your expectations are too high. You can't expect there to be ';that one'; person. The odds are against you.
I wish you all the luck though, And these are just my opinions. You know whats best for you. Good luck!I'm so lonely, I seek advice?
Remember you always learn though your mistakes, but that doesn't mean the girl will stick around for you to figure out what they were.
My advice is make friends who share your interests. And if you don't have any, get some man! Art, music, sports, politics, religion, even Warhammer just anything. Only ask people to hang out when you have something to do, for instance you could ';Play music together'; or ';Goto a show'; smoke pot and play N64! Never be too pushy. Remember if your the only one thats calling and they never call you, thats a sign.
For girls, IT';S EASY! just treat them like they're other guys you want to be simply friends with. Never ask to go out, ask to hang out, your intentions will be clear without saying anything. Let them make the first move, it may take a week or a month, but it's better to wait it out than to be shot down within a few days a loose a friend.
Good Luck!
you know what you want, so do not be desperate in accepting something that is not what you are looking for. you are more mature than most people your age, and what you are seeking is honorable and so don't put yourself down for it. Lonliness happens, but it will get better. be careful seeking people on the internet, you don't know who you really are talking to. could be some perv.
Enjoy your age....
with joy and pain that it brings....
i wish i could be 15 again...
oh God
dont end up smoking weed, other than that, learn to make money
dont be desperet
I'm 16 and from what i red i somewhat understand. I can't say I do cause i don't know you.
I'm feeling similar though. Its not so much that i'm not social but that people my age are idiots, drink,smoke,sex,date like crazy and follow the crowd. People say that you should date around and see what you like. I think thats the dumbest piece of advice i ever heard. Let's just say that your are on the right mental path and people like you are the people who find true lov, because you already know what you want and don't want so your ahead of alot of people there. Its just a matter of time to wait for that person.
Don't feel lonely though. You're young just like me, we aren't supposed to find our true loves yet.
Patience.
dude, im 16 and lost my virginity at 15. it was tight! she bled and all! what u need is to get laid and run! dont date, i dated this girl and had sex w/ her in 6 days... way too long. just ask someone if u can have sex w/ them cuz ur desperate... thats all dude. good luck to u and remember... USE A CONDOM ! ! !
HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
I have a piece of GROUP coursework that is due in soonish (Can't remember exactly when - will find out later today).
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel like I can talk to him about it.
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
God, get a little assertiveness. Your project will NEVER be finished if you don't address this and get the other guy with the program, too. The right time is the VERY next time you see him, and it wouldn't hurt to email AND text him.
EDIT: Good for you. Don't expect miracles, obviously neither are very concerned, but now you're taking some control.
I have not heard a thing from either boy I'm meant to be working with (Although I have the number for one of them). I have no idea how to bring up the issue of this coursework with him because it's never felt like a good time (I've always wanted to bring it up after we've been doing group work for another module in our course, which feels like a good time to me, but then he just talks to the teacher or goes off with mates).
We've just had our reading week, which would HAVE BEEN a perfect time to catch up with him, but I never did (Yes, my fault. I know.). I need to ask him what the hell we're doing, and do it! But I've no idea when would be a good time to ask him or what method of communication I should use (Random texts seem odd to me, as do emails... but I don't feel like I can talk to him about it.
And no, I don't fancy him!HELP! I'm not sure whether I'm just ranting or genuinely trying to seek advice! What should I do?
God, get a little assertiveness. Your project will NEVER be finished if you don't address this and get the other guy with the program, too. The right time is the VERY next time you see him, and it wouldn't hurt to email AND text him.
EDIT: Good for you. Don't expect miracles, obviously neither are very concerned, but now you're taking some control.
Seeking for advice on activity to do with kids on winter holiday in Montreal?
Where do locals go with their family? I am only staying for 2 days in Montreal and thought about maybe going to the Biodome, unless you advise something better. (My son is 5) Many thanks!Seeking for advice on activity to do with kids on winter holiday in Montreal?
Sledding and skating on Mount Royal at Beaver Lake (with a big lodge on site with restaurant, lockers, washrooms, etc...).
Swimming at the Aquadome in Lasalle.
Montreal Museum of Fine Arts (depending on the exhibits, since he's only 5).
The Old Port has the Science Centre (our kids love it), and in the Old Port itself are many other things to do (sightsee).
Have fun!
Sledding and skating on Mount Royal at Beaver Lake (with a big lodge on site with restaurant, lockers, washrooms, etc...).
Swimming at the Aquadome in Lasalle.
Montreal Museum of Fine Arts (depending on the exhibits, since he's only 5).
The Old Port has the Science Centre (our kids love it), and in the Old Port itself are many other things to do (sightsee).
Have fun!
I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
I have a great idea for a website. If done right, it could be a big deal. There are several parts to the idea for which I would want to seek out advice from other subject matter experts. I am concerned that my idea could be passed along to others (or perhaps those who I speak with) who have more resources (money, manpower, etc..) and therefore the ability to have something similar created much sooner than I could. How do I gather advice from others without jeopardizing my idea. Is a Non-disclosure agreement really enough?I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
Go down to the patents office, bring your idea and file for a patent.... You might even come to find out thousand other people already hold a patent on your idea... It happened to me once.I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
First thing I would do is register the domain name and any similiar ones.
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Go down to the patents office, bring your idea and file for a patent.... You might even come to find out thousand other people already hold a patent on your idea... It happened to me once.I have an idea for a website. How do I protect my idea, while seeking out advice from others?
First thing I would do is register the domain name and any similiar ones.
http://www.preferredpromoz.com/adlandpro鈥?/a>
Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
Well, i am 15 and need some tips on writing fiction in short story form. Any form of tips and advice would be great. And i am seeking advice from writers who have lots of experience in writing. Who have, hopefully, a couple of years of experience. I am in attempt to write a short story, but it never seems to come out right. I have plans on getting a book that is about writing like ';on writing'; by Stephen King, but i would like some advice for now, until i am able to get a copy of it. Thanks.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
Every writer has their own style. You cannot just take a writers advice and come out with a spectacular story.
Let's see what can I tell you...
Description: If you feel like describing all the different aspects of the characters and setting then do; unless you feel like keeping it simple. Let others form their own visuals based off of the little information you gave them. Find out how you like to do it.
Plot: I'd say be original or don't be cliche', but they just feel cliche'. Do something interesting.
Other Elements: Use other different elements: irony, action, gesture, dialogue, focus, time, place, point of view, character, etc.
find your style and roll with it.
Personally, I dislike 'How To Write' books.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
I would pick up a copy of Writer's Digest Magazine. It has a lot of advice. They also offer a correspondence writing class that could help you since it offers feedback from an author/teacher. You weren't very clear on what you needed help with. What exactly isn't ';coming out right';? If you want to ask more in-depth questions you can contact me through my website below.
Every writer has their own style. You cannot just take a writers advice and come out with a spectacular story.
Let's see what can I tell you...
Description: If you feel like describing all the different aspects of the characters and setting then do; unless you feel like keeping it simple. Let others form their own visuals based off of the little information you gave them. Find out how you like to do it.
Plot: I'd say be original or don't be cliche', but they just feel cliche'. Do something interesting.
Other Elements: Use other different elements: irony, action, gesture, dialogue, focus, time, place, point of view, character, etc.
find your style and roll with it.
Personally, I dislike 'How To Write' books.Amateur writer seeking tips/advice from experienced and or published authors?
I would pick up a copy of Writer's Digest Magazine. It has a lot of advice. They also offer a correspondence writing class that could help you since it offers feedback from an author/teacher. You weren't very clear on what you needed help with. What exactly isn't ';coming out right';? If you want to ask more in-depth questions you can contact me through my website below.
Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
I am looking to become an Aquisition Editor, please tell me what college courses are good to take and the best way to get into the book publishing industry. (I heard it was very difficult).Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
I work with a small publishing company in the Pacific Northwest. You're right, it is difficult to break into the book publishing industry. I'd suggest working with a newspaper or magazine first. This will let you get some solid writing and editing experience on your resume -- while developing a sense of the field.
What has been a real asset over the last few decades is online resources like Bloomsbury, The Paris Review, the ABA and many others (see links below). They are a stunning resource in keeping an eye out for positions available across the country in the publishing business. They are also great in helping you build your network -- this is vital to a career in publishing if you want to be successful!
I'd also suggest attending as many author readings and book events as you can. C-Span's Book TV has a great event listings page where you can check out local book happenings.Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
The book publishing industry is very rewarding in aspects of reading, but doesn't pay well. However, to become an acquisition editor, you have to start at the bottom. Get a degree in journalism, English, or just go to monster.com or career builder, search for publishing jobs and see what education and qualifications they seek in candidates.
I work with a small publishing company in the Pacific Northwest. You're right, it is difficult to break into the book publishing industry. I'd suggest working with a newspaper or magazine first. This will let you get some solid writing and editing experience on your resume -- while developing a sense of the field.
What has been a real asset over the last few decades is online resources like Bloomsbury, The Paris Review, the ABA and many others (see links below). They are a stunning resource in keeping an eye out for positions available across the country in the publishing business. They are also great in helping you build your network -- this is vital to a career in publishing if you want to be successful!
I'd also suggest attending as many author readings and book events as you can. C-Span's Book TV has a great event listings page where you can check out local book happenings.Seeking advice on the Publishing Industry?
The book publishing industry is very rewarding in aspects of reading, but doesn't pay well. However, to become an acquisition editor, you have to start at the bottom. Get a degree in journalism, English, or just go to monster.com or career builder, search for publishing jobs and see what education and qualifications they seek in candidates.
Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
In four weeks I shall be attending the University of Wisconsin. I have never attended a college before. I am 52 yrs. old. I am handicapped. I am a recovering alcoholic %26amp; drug addict. I have been homeless 4 times in my life. The last time (Jan. 05) I received frostbite, which turned to gangrene. As a result of this I had 1/2 of my right leg and 1/3 of my left foot amputated.
I would truly like to help other people with alcohol %26amp; drugs problems. Only I realize that college is all about freedom %26amp; parties for the young people. I feel safe that I will remain substance free, but how should I convey to my fellow students the fact that I simply do not wish to party. I would much rather share what can happen if your partying gets out of hand. Any advice would be appreciated.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
I don't think you'll have to worry about it, because chances are you won't get asked to the parties. College students tend to hang with other people their age and they'll probably assume that you have better things to do and don't want to hang out with a bunch of kids. If they do ask, just tell them that you have other plans, but after the party ask them how it was and maybe you can work in some of your advice that way.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
Actually, the people you'll get to know best probably will be older than the just-out-of-highschool, party crowd, so shouldn't be a problem. There are lots of older people going back to school these days.
Good luck.
At 52, you aren't going to have to worry about this. You won't be asked.
I speak from experience -- I was 43 when I went back to graduate school.
If you are asked, you can simply say ';Thank you for asking, but I don't drink'; or ';thank you for asking but I can't make it.';
College is a great experience -- I hope you enjoy it. Don't be too quick to judge the young -- most of them are there to learn.
I would truly like to help other people with alcohol %26amp; drugs problems. Only I realize that college is all about freedom %26amp; parties for the young people. I feel safe that I will remain substance free, but how should I convey to my fellow students the fact that I simply do not wish to party. I would much rather share what can happen if your partying gets out of hand. Any advice would be appreciated.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
I don't think you'll have to worry about it, because chances are you won't get asked to the parties. College students tend to hang with other people their age and they'll probably assume that you have better things to do and don't want to hang out with a bunch of kids. If they do ask, just tell them that you have other plans, but after the party ask them how it was and maybe you can work in some of your advice that way.Seeking advice on attending a University for the first time.?
Actually, the people you'll get to know best probably will be older than the just-out-of-highschool, party crowd, so shouldn't be a problem. There are lots of older people going back to school these days.
Good luck.
At 52, you aren't going to have to worry about this. You won't be asked.
I speak from experience -- I was 43 when I went back to graduate school.
If you are asked, you can simply say ';Thank you for asking, but I don't drink'; or ';thank you for asking but I can't make it.';
College is a great experience -- I hope you enjoy it. Don't be too quick to judge the young -- most of them are there to learn.
Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Hi all!!
My fianc茅 is joining the Air force soon. He already talked to a recuriter about what the Air Force is about and he's different options. But he is not going to enlist until I talk to the recuriter myself. I know he isnt going to tell me what it is going to be like for me personally; as an air fore wife. So, I wanted some insight and advice from Air Force wives and from other military wives.
Thank You!!!
Also, we have a son and are planning to get married soon.Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
You need to go into your marriage knowing that the needs of the AF come first, that you will be asked to move to places you have no desire to go, you will leave behind your family and friends, your husband may deploy on short notice for 6 months or he may go remote for a year, you will be a single parent at times, your son may have to get used to dad not showing up at the ball game or the school play or missing important birthdays, and he will miss holidays and anniversaries. Through all of this you remain strong, stand behind your man, and do the best you can with the support of your new friends and AF family.
You will gain strength you never knew you had. You may learn new skills. Do things you never thought about doing. Live places you've only dreamed about. Cry during a military movie. Stand prouder than many of the airmen during the national anthem. You will never wear his rank.
It's a hard life, but also a wonderful life. One I wouldn't trade for all the world. And that's including the 5 years he deployed 3 months every year and worked 14 hours days when he was home. I have been in wonderful places, places I never want to go again, met my best friend, and met women I never want to see again!
If you have any specific questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me. Having been mentored by some wonderful women, it's my turn to give back to the next set of AF wives.
hugs!Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Talk to the recruiter about what? I am not too sure what you are asking but it is a pretty tough life. My husband is in the Navy and is gone ALL the time. We are about to go through our 3rd deployment in 3 years. We spend more time on sea duty than on shore duty. If you are committed you will get through it but you can not really prepare yourself because you will never know how hard it truly is until you go through it yourself. Best of luck.
Well, I know you asked for military wives, but I am a military sister. My brother is in the Army. He spent a year in bootcamp. (we did not get to see him at all) Then he came home for 2 weeks and was sent to WA (we live in GA) where he has been for a year. He is actually home on another 2 week leave and when he goes back he will go to Afghanastan.
Best advise i can give is if he does sign in make sure that the job he wants is in writing or they will screw your fiance over. My husband went in as a mechanic and then was told he couldn't do that after he was in meps right before basic and then he was going to be a meteorologist and when he didn't graduate on time because he broke his foot in warrior week he now can only work in security forces. Recruiters are actually the worst guys you can talk to because they will feed you a line of crap. My husband said basic training was nothing like what his recruiter told him. Also make sure that they don't get him in ';general enlistment'; because that means they can put him in anything and your fiance won't have anything to say about it. Just don't believe everything that recruiter tells you because his main job is to get your fiance in there and will tell you whatever it takes to get him in. We might have gotten a crappy recruiter but my husband doesn't want to be in security forces and neither do i because he was promised a job but because he didn't get it all in writing and signed by the right people he is stuck being in security forces weather he wants to be or not. I am actually praying that they do discharge him and then he can go back in 6 months and get a decent job and get it in writing that he gets that job only. good luck
Here are a couple of Military wives support forums. You may have to register to use them.
http://www.airforcewives.com/index.php/c鈥?/a>
http://forums.military.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Also this web site has a lot of info on joining the military
there's a section called join the military.
http://www.military.com/
A lot of info here too.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforcej鈥?/a>
Basically the Air Force is like any civilian company. After basic training and tech school for your job you go to your first duty station. Working hours are normally 7:30 to 4:30. M-F You may have to work a weekend shift. You may occasionally have to work shifts it depends on what your job is. You wouldn't be able to join him until his first duty station or if the tech school is long enough to make it worth while you could join him there. I suppose if it were over 4 months it would be worth moving.
As a military member your husband will have free health and dental care, 30 paid vacation days a year, additional pay for housing and to eat separately (at home) rather than if he were single and ate in the dining hall. You and your son will have free medical care and low cost dental care. Also the military has commissary stores for groceries. They charge wholesale price plus 4% for overhead. It saves about 25% over downtown depending on what you buy. You just have to shop carefully.
My fianc茅 is joining the Air force soon. He already talked to a recuriter about what the Air Force is about and he's different options. But he is not going to enlist until I talk to the recuriter myself. I know he isnt going to tell me what it is going to be like for me personally; as an air fore wife. So, I wanted some insight and advice from Air Force wives and from other military wives.
Thank You!!!
Also, we have a son and are planning to get married soon.Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
You need to go into your marriage knowing that the needs of the AF come first, that you will be asked to move to places you have no desire to go, you will leave behind your family and friends, your husband may deploy on short notice for 6 months or he may go remote for a year, you will be a single parent at times, your son may have to get used to dad not showing up at the ball game or the school play or missing important birthdays, and he will miss holidays and anniversaries. Through all of this you remain strong, stand behind your man, and do the best you can with the support of your new friends and AF family.
You will gain strength you never knew you had. You may learn new skills. Do things you never thought about doing. Live places you've only dreamed about. Cry during a military movie. Stand prouder than many of the airmen during the national anthem. You will never wear his rank.
It's a hard life, but also a wonderful life. One I wouldn't trade for all the world. And that's including the 5 years he deployed 3 months every year and worked 14 hours days when he was home. I have been in wonderful places, places I never want to go again, met my best friend, and met women I never want to see again!
If you have any specific questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me. Having been mentored by some wonderful women, it's my turn to give back to the next set of AF wives.
hugs!Seeking Advice from Air force wives or any other military wives..ONLY?
Talk to the recruiter about what? I am not too sure what you are asking but it is a pretty tough life. My husband is in the Navy and is gone ALL the time. We are about to go through our 3rd deployment in 3 years. We spend more time on sea duty than on shore duty. If you are committed you will get through it but you can not really prepare yourself because you will never know how hard it truly is until you go through it yourself. Best of luck.
Well, I know you asked for military wives, but I am a military sister. My brother is in the Army. He spent a year in bootcamp. (we did not get to see him at all) Then he came home for 2 weeks and was sent to WA (we live in GA) where he has been for a year. He is actually home on another 2 week leave and when he goes back he will go to Afghanastan.
Best advise i can give is if he does sign in make sure that the job he wants is in writing or they will screw your fiance over. My husband went in as a mechanic and then was told he couldn't do that after he was in meps right before basic and then he was going to be a meteorologist and when he didn't graduate on time because he broke his foot in warrior week he now can only work in security forces. Recruiters are actually the worst guys you can talk to because they will feed you a line of crap. My husband said basic training was nothing like what his recruiter told him. Also make sure that they don't get him in ';general enlistment'; because that means they can put him in anything and your fiance won't have anything to say about it. Just don't believe everything that recruiter tells you because his main job is to get your fiance in there and will tell you whatever it takes to get him in. We might have gotten a crappy recruiter but my husband doesn't want to be in security forces and neither do i because he was promised a job but because he didn't get it all in writing and signed by the right people he is stuck being in security forces weather he wants to be or not. I am actually praying that they do discharge him and then he can go back in 6 months and get a decent job and get it in writing that he gets that job only. good luck
Here are a couple of Military wives support forums. You may have to register to use them.
http://www.airforcewives.com/index.php/c鈥?/a>
http://forums.military.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Also this web site has a lot of info on joining the military
there's a section called join the military.
http://www.military.com/
A lot of info here too.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforcej鈥?/a>
Basically the Air Force is like any civilian company. After basic training and tech school for your job you go to your first duty station. Working hours are normally 7:30 to 4:30. M-F You may have to work a weekend shift. You may occasionally have to work shifts it depends on what your job is. You wouldn't be able to join him until his first duty station or if the tech school is long enough to make it worth while you could join him there. I suppose if it were over 4 months it would be worth moving.
As a military member your husband will have free health and dental care, 30 paid vacation days a year, additional pay for housing and to eat separately (at home) rather than if he were single and ate in the dining hall. You and your son will have free medical care and low cost dental care. Also the military has commissary stores for groceries. They charge wholesale price plus 4% for overhead. It saves about 25% over downtown depending on what you buy. You just have to shop carefully.
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