I m Afraid of Getting Married.pls I seek advice?

I m 25 old guy , my girlfriend is 34 and we love each other very much,


I wanna marry her but I am afraid of doing this I feel the age will be big hindrance between us,what is your opinion about this? will difference of age threaten our relationship or the love can overcome it? if there are successful marriage in the same situation pls tell meI m Afraid of Getting Married.pls I seek advice?
Age can become a factor...yes...if you two allow it. Here is my opinion about how to possibly over come it. Both of you sit down and have a very open discussion about what the two of you expect to happen in a marriage and what your interests are and how they may change or not change in the coming years as you both enter different age groups. Discuss where the two of you see the marriage in 5, 10 or even 20 years from now when you will still of course be 9 years younger. Will you be able to flex with what her view of a marriage thru her age perspective and will she understand your perspective at being younger. Having this discussion will help define for you both whether you two should even get married. At the end of the day if you come to realize maybe you shouldn't get married ......believe me that's a good thing for both of you.....it beats not having this discussion and entering into a marriage where problems may loom down the road and then you bring a kid into the world and now you two are miserable in the marriage because you aren't on the same page as one another because of the age difference and who is the victim?....the kid....so it is good to have this discussion now and if you decide you are in fact on the same page with one another in respect to the age difference then yes...you can make this work. But make sue when you have this discussion you leave no stone unturned.


And I do wish you wellI m Afraid of Getting Married.pls I seek advice?
Age is not a hindrance, unless YOU are uncomfortable with it. What matters is the thinking of two individuals. Concern lies in the love and respect of each other, mutual goals, compatibility, financial responsibility, and the combined thinking of family, and the values therein.


There is no threat if both are of moral character and integrity. Love alone does not overcome problems. Discussion and compromise must also be a part of any relationship.
Marriage will not make a bit of difference one way or the other.


The relationship will either survive or it won't. Marriage won't make it work any more than if you were not married.


The age difference is not as important as other factors. If you have the same goals for the future and share the same basic values, age isn't a factor.


For instance, if one of your goals for the future is children, is she willing and able? What do you plan to do at retirement? Do you have similar financial priorities?


Examine the issues without worrying about age. Good luck.
Well do you really know what love is? Love isnt just a feeling. Its a promise that even when you dont ';feel'; like loving her, you will do the actions that shows her you love her. Its telling her she is gorgeous when you dont even want to look at her. Its making her dinner when your too tired to eat yourself. Its a feeling yes, but that comes and goes. If you chase just the feeling you will not be with someone very long because it always comes and goes. But the commitment to stay even when you dont want to is what marriage is about. Its being the strong one and working on things when you feel you hate the person. Thats when you build the most precious bond ever. You know you can make it through anything. But you have to ALWAYS activley try and ALWAYS forgive everything.
Do you want a family? Her fertility is already on its way out at 34 sadly, so if you do you would need to start trying. That is a consideration.


Do you think you will be alright with her being 44 when you are 35? What about 64 when you are 55?


These are considerations for someone marrying with a large age difference.


If you love each other though and you go into with your eyes open, I don't see why it couldn't work.
You see Hollywood celebrities doing it, but will they last?





I have known folks who made it last -- December/May marriage --


but have you two discussed every OTHER aspect such as children, religion, where you want to live, future plans?





The ones I know who made it worked in the same career field. They were both attractive and smart and good communicators.
if you two love one another as much as you say u do then there isnt nothing to be worried about, there isnt much of an age different in me and my husband, i am 24 and he is 26 but we no that love can over come anything, i thank the thing u should be worried about is how she is going to change once your merried, my husband changed alot once we got merried, if you do love her i thank it should matter what age you and her are.
To me it really depends what you want. If and when you want kids will she be able to provide them? are you really on the same page? A man of 25 and a woman of 34 can be in different stages in their lives.. while you may be starting a career she could be set and done with all the things you're just trying to do now. In the end, if the age is really going to bother you.. then you shouldn't be marrying her. If it doesnt matter to you because you love her, then go ahead. just look to the future and make sure you're going to be on the same page.





discuss the important things like:


children


finance


etc.
i say go for it, lifes too short to waste time worrying. you love her, she loves you, the age gap hasnt seemed to bother you now so why would that change just because your married? there are loads of peolle all the way round the world who are in loving, successsful relationships with large age gaps. seriously, if it doesnt bother you now then i doubt it ever will. still if you are unsure dont rush into it. talk to her about it and see how she feels about the age gap. if you are still not sure then leave it for a while and see how things go. i definately suggest u talk to her about all of this, it really will help. good luck! x x x
Your love is going to over come any obsticle that crosses your path. Trust me i know. My husband is12yrs older then me. We do everything together. Now dont get me wrong is going to be like every other marriage with arguments and stuff but nothing major. Well good luck. i hope i was some help be happy dont worry about the age difference its going to be ok
grasshopper you are not a man yet, your questions shows self doubt. So give yourself time to mature and become man enough to make this big decision on your own and not ask Y.A. for what to do, like a little boy. As you have already given reasons, why the marriage will not work, let that sink in your mind.
If you are questioning it u shouldn't do it .. if this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with then it shouldn't matter.. if u r getting married u should have the same wants from life at least and if it comes to children then u might want to start considering it now
it is not age..it is maturity. Do u both have the same morals..want th same things in life?


both prolife i hope..


good commuincation..try to find some marriage books at the library..many self help books..


always Love and support eachother and correct eachtother in a loving sincere manner..
Only you can answer these questions. Most of the time age is not the problem it is what you put into it that makes or breaks it. If you are not sure then I suggest you live together for a while and see where things lead.
you have to ask yourself some serious questions and depending on the answers you'll know the answer. do you guys want the same thing? Do you want them in the same time frame? and have you seen each other with the flu?
love can overcome anything. Just make sure she's the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with. I know i made the right choice with my wife and i dont regret a day.
If you have doubts...don't do it. Odds are across the board that you'll end up divorced anyway.