It happened to me..........and is happening continuesly ..so i seek your advice?

3 years before a girl who was not so familiar to me asked me to marry her but I flatly rejected her proposal.After three months I happned to know that she had committed suicide because of my rejection. Therfore, I kept on thinking that as my refused killed her I became the greatest sinner in the world. Now i can do nothing except contemplating deeply regarding this.


So please could you save my life by all meanse making my mind peaceful again.


I seek forward to your advice


Thank you so much for your great considerationIt happened to me..........and is happening continuesly ..so i seek your advice?
every one gave you great answers i am satisfied with that only.It happened to me..........and is happening continuesly ..so i seek your advice?
Man, I guess you've been told this several times but YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER DEATH.


Why would you marry a woman you hardly knew? Do you really think it was a bad idea to turn her down?


For your message I assume you're a religious man. Pray for her soul and carry on with your life.
What knowledge do you have that she committed suicide because of your refusal to marry her? Even if you have substantial evidence, have you asked yourself how stable she was regardless of your relationship with her? Are others blaming you for this? I say, mourn in your own manner, pray that she is now at peace and take care of yourself. Two people ending their lives is no answer...if you have fears of hurting yourself, please see a professional.
Do you know for sure that her suicide is directly related to your refusal?


Did she contemplate to kill herself because of your big NO?


Didn't she entertain suicidal thoughts before?


Did you lead her into believing that you were seriiously interested in her?


If your answers to these questions are ';no,'; (I supposse this to be the case) then you're the only one who can bring your worries to full stop because it was she the one who took that decision on her own. You didn't kill her.
if she was that much stupid to kill herself because of you and your refusal ...hmm!she really had to die!and if not...why do you bother yourself?there is no time!you wont be able to get back the passed time!
If what u say is what had happened,,then you got nothing to blame yourself about,,She has sociological problems that could had infiltrated your life and your future , and you lucky you didn't have children from her..so think about the positive side..that should relax you..
For her to have committed suicide and make you feel this way is very selfish of her. You can't marry someone you don't love, you just can't. Think about if you HAD accepted her proposal, but then you would have lived your life meaninglessly. Would you rather have lived a miserable life, than the one that you wanted to live? Honestly, if she has killed herself, she made a bad decision in her life, but at least you know what you want. Don't feel bad, she did this because SHE wanted to, not because you wanted her to.
Hey you, it was her decision and her actions that caused her demise. She apparently was expecting someone outside herself to make her happy. It doesn't work that way. She would've found something else to be unhappy about even if you had married her. Tons of things happen to us throughout our lives to create feelings of guilt. That guilt weighs us down and prevents us from lighting up the lives of those who deserve and appreciate it. Free yourself from the weight, it was not your fault, and allow light to fill your heart again so that you may share a real love with another when you're ready.


Blessings
I understand your guilt. However, this girl was disturbed and had problems that had nothing to do with you. She was ill and may not have been able to help herself. It is too bad she didn't get the help she needed, but it is not your fault.





If you really can't get over this, please talk to someone; a therapist, minister, or older adult.





Good luck to you.
Oh please.. She didn't even know you and killed her self because you didn't wanted to marry her? Well she is clearly a nut case and there is nothing you could do about it..


Unless you lied and deceived her. Was she your girl friend? Did you sleep with her? Where was she from?


You didn't marry her, its your lost. About a million dollars insurance money...kidding/
just think of it this way. YOU'D probably commit suicide if she turns out to be some kind of person you'd never want to marry after marrying her.





it wasn't your obligation to marry her but to help her problem at that time. i don't want you to feel guilty but i guess you should have at least helped solve her problem in a way that you didn't have to marry her. maybe she was having some problems that she needed someone to listen to her.





anyway she's dead now. all you can do now is pray for her soul and ask God for forgiveness if you feel guilty or ask Him for peace of mind too.